I looked embarrassed: "teacher, she is a woman, is it appropriate?"
"Gynecology, of course, is a female patient. Is there a male patient? " The teacher answered irrelevant questions!
Seeing my wry smile, the teacher went on to say, "What's shameful about studying medicine?"? Don't worry, I've got the patient's consent. Let's go. "
Up to now, I still clearly remember how I nervously finished the exam with my teacher. It was my first time to get in touch with a female patient. Later, when I came out to work, I came into contact with more patients, and I knew the anatomical map of the human body by heart, which also made me understand the magical power of not changing color and not being distracted before any organ of the human body was exposed.
A doctor is a noble profession, and it is a doctor's bounden duty to cure diseases and save lives. Male doctors in obstetrics and gynecology and female doctors in urology are common words in the eyes of medical professionals. But in the eyes of ordinary patients, these two words contain all kinds of complicated emotions: embarrassment, shyness, mind, complaint and so on. , often hinder the doctor's examination and diagnosis and treatment, and bring great inconvenience to the doctor's work. In fact, all doctors with medical ethics are male and female. In their eyes, everyone has only one name, and that is "patient".
Male doctors and female patients in obstetrics and gynecology
Although the vast majority of gynecologists are female doctors, there are also some hospitals, especially male doctors in top three hospitals. This makes some patients in obstetrics and gynecology feel embarrassed. After all, it is embarrassing to expose your privacy to another strange man. In fact, male doctors in obstetrics and gynecology are becoming more and more common at present, which is also the trend of this society. For doctors, they only treat you as a patient. They don't care how beautiful your face is, how symmetrical your figure is, whether your skin is white or not, and whether your ass is stuck. They only care about what happened to you and how to deal with it. So don't worry too much. What are the embarrassing things that are not good for your health?
Second, the difference between male doctors and female patients in breast surgery
In the process of doctor's diagnosis and treatment, in order to obtain correct diagnosis and treatment information, physical examination is essential. If a male doctor accepts a female patient with a small lump in her breast, in order to find out what kind of lump it is, the male doctor must let the female patient fully expose her chest and carefully touch the size, hardness, distribution and boundary of the lump. In this process, no one will care whether your figure is great, your face is beautiful, and your breasts are beautiful ... In the eyes of doctors, it's just a mass of meat, a mass of sick meat, waiting for treatment, regardless of gender or age. Maybe when you are embarrassed, the doctor thinks about how to cut you! Using a knife will separate skin, fat, meat and tendons. It doesn't matter if there is blood, blood and beauty. ...
If you refuse to fully expose the parts that need to be examined because of shyness and embarrassment, it will affect the doctor's examination results, and even some valuable positive signs will be missed, which will often make the doctor make a wrong diagnosis and thus affect the treatment. Of course, in order to avoid unnecessary misunderstanding, we usually fully communicate with patients in advance, seek understanding and consent, and invite a female medical staff to be present when necessary.
Three, anorectal male doctors and female patients
I am a gastrointestinal surgeon, and I usually meet many female patients. Many patients come to see a doctor because of irregular stool, bloody stool and repeated dull pain. Under the background that the incidence of cancer is getting higher and higher, and the patients are getting younger and younger, it is hard not to worry. Do an ultrasound, small tumors can't be detected, and large tumors can't be detected too late. Do a colonoscopy. It's too uncomfortable. The simplest and quickest method is anal finger examination. However, many female patients feel ashamed when they see that they are male doctors. In fact, for an anorectal surgeon, there is always only one thing to be concerned about, and that is whether your anorectal is sick or not. We don't care if there are moles on your face, we only care if there are hemorrhoids on your anus; We don't care if you have meat on you, only care if you have "meat" in your anus.
The doctor's observation of the patient's face can never compare with the observation of the disease. Years later, you may forget your name and face, but you won't forget a typical case.
Of course, the news occasionally reports that jane doe was treated in a private hospital and was sexually assaulted by a doctor after anesthesia. This behavior is, of course, the work of animals who are angry with people and gods, and should be condemned by heaven. However, just like ten fingers are always long and short, human nature is always different. There are inevitably some scum in the doctor group, but after all, they are a minority and cannot represent the doctor group.
In a word, medicine is sacred and cannot be mixed with any selfish distractions.
I have a few friends I know. For the convenience of introduction, I call them "scum". When we had dinner together, I proudly boasted that he went to a hospital to find a friend, who was the dean of the hospital. Why let "slag" put on the doctor's clothes and enter gynecology? Actually, I was very happy when I went to see a woman giving birth. I despised this man in my heart, and then I stopped seeing him. This shows that the quality of a hospital director can be so poor that he can actually take people to "watch" the birth of a child, such as watching pornographic festivals. Therefore, people with power are disgusting, and that kind of obscene release is hard for ordinary people to accept. Then I think the dean of a hospital can do the same, and say hello to doctors a lot! Of course, I have seen qualified doctors! Then the problem should be management. Why is it difficult for male doctors to learn gynecology? Are there no female medical students? It's not normal, it's not serious, this is my personal opinion, don't spray if you are unhappy!
The names "male doctor in obstetrics and gynecology" and "female doctor in urology" are nothing more than the distribution of work content in the eyes of medical professionals. In the eyes of outsiders, I am afraid they should be accompanied by a black question mark face.
Because these two nouns contain all kinds of emotions: embarrassment, shyness, mind, embarrassment, complaining and being at a loss. ...
I have experienced such a visit. I happened to meet a male doctor when I was doing B-ultrasound. At that time, the boss was unhappy and wanted to change, but he waited in line for an hour before getting on the last round, which was very uncomfortable. But a male doctor, patient and gentle, made me relaxed, and he answered my questions patiently. In contrast, female doctors are impatient, thinking that gynecological diseases are normal, ignoring patients' concerns and being too lazy to explain.
In hindsight, those who are rejected or unacceptable are mostly psychological. As the saying goes, "there is specialization in the profession", and you are here to seek medical treatment. Scientific objectivity is far better than gender entanglement. Your's relationship is just a simple patient and doctor.
I think a male doctor's inner OS must be like this: how can I make you understand that you are only a combination of several organs in my eyes?
And many male doctors are calmer, gentler, more rational and more patient than female doctors.
On the other hand, the ratio of male to female in obstetrics and gynecology is just the opposite internationally. 90% are male doctors.
In fact, in life, it is normal for men to appear in fields that seem to be exclusive to women, such as male designers who design women's underwear and male researchers who study sanitary napkins.
So there is no need to enlarge the focus, and it is even more ridiculous to rise to personal dignity. For the purpose, you are here to see a doctor. Curing the disease is the fundamental purpose! Therefore, a good doctor is more important than a female doctor!
I think it's not that there is no gender difference in doctors' eyes, but that they really don't care about gender. Share your real experience and feelings. When I was an intern in the fifth year, I rotated in gynecology. Generally, gynecological surgery and dressing change are done by interns. Teachers usually don't have time to take care of you unless you can't solve it. I changed the dressing (sterile) with the patient several times alone in the dressing room. Don't say I have to be accompanied by a nurse. I don't care when I'm busy, from my twenties to my seventies. For the first time, I was deeply impressed. Patient number 40. Seeing me coming alone to change her dressing, I told her to take off her pants. She was embarrassed. I comforted her and said it was okay. We are doctors, there is no gender difference. In fact, I was embarrassed, but I had to comfort myself. When I really started the operation, I just wanted to change the dressing properly, try to relieve her pain and observe the wound healing. It is no exaggeration to say that I am a saint. I can't say that everyone has no distractions, but most of them can't take care of them.
In the eyes of doctors and nurses, strictly speaking, there is really no gender difference in medical staff. Especially when they are at work (seeing a doctor, nursing).
This is the most basic accomplishment of a medical professional when studying health care. If you can't even pass this pass, you won't graduate at all, let alone engage in the medical profession in the future.
So, there is no doubt about this.
Let me give you a simple example. That is to say, if you take the pilot test, if you fail or do well, will the country let you fly the plane? Definitely not.
The same is true of the medical industry.
In the eyes of medical staff, only patients did not ask the so-called difference between men and women.
It seems that asking the Lord is watching too many TV dramas.
Although I am not a doctor myself, my classmates also have many relatives and friends of medical doctors and doctors in top three hospitals. Of course, you can't say that there is no gender difference at all. It's just that most doctors can adjust themselves quickly even if they can't organize themselves completely when facing patients, and there won't be too many messy thoughts.
Many people may say that doctors have been working for a long time, whether they are male patients or female patients, whether they are beautiful or ugly, they are all a bunch of organs in front of doctors. This statement is obviously exaggerated.
Beauty is beauty, and handsome boy is handsome boy!
But we must understand that it is often the beauty of the patient's face, not the organs. There are only a few human organs, so it's not surprising to see too many.
Doctors, like normal people, have secular desires and can distinguish beauty from ugliness. Anyone who sees something beautiful can't help but look twice. This is human nature. You can't be completely immune. It is out of the question. You can only consciously control yourself, but you can't stop the existence of hormones. Although it is a patient, if the patient is beautiful and looks good, you may still be tempted to look twice.
At the other extreme, as a doctor, you have to meet not only beautiful women and handsome men, but also ugly women and ugly men, which is inevitable, and you have no choice as a doctor.
Two surgeons in our family, my cousin and my ex-girlfriend, have met many patients who are not outstanding in appearance. My cousin once met a female patient who didn't like hygiene very much. She has bad breath, messy hair and a bad smell. But you have to treat others. Others are patients. Your job is to treat others, not their living habits.
Then, when my ex-girlfriend was a doctor in the first grade, she met a man with plastic surgery. A man's chin is pulled like snake disease, and the key buddies think he is fine. While in hospital, he hooked up with the little nurse in the ward. If you look good, that's fine. You went for plastic surgery yourself. What do you look like?
The last point is the diseased organ. Since I am a doctor, I often have to have surgery. It is not surprising that people have only a few organs.
Everyone should understand that many patients' organs seen by doctors are actually diseased organs, and decay, odor and so on are all possible. You think it's really "the smell of the sea", which is impossible.
In front of doctors, the focus organ is their job, and it is always professional to face patients. Although some patients are really beautiful and handsome, most doctors (of course, there is no guarantee that every doctor is an absolutely good doctor who abides by the Hippocratic oath) will always be professional when facing patients, and they will help every patient overcome the disease.
Finally, angels in white is really one of the most beautiful people in the world. We can't kill everyone with a stick just because of a few people, especially clinicians in China, whose workload is almost two to three times that of developed countries such as the United States. They deserve respect.
Doctors are also human beings, with gender differences and love for beauty, and secular desires are also ordinary people. However, once a doctor arrives at the medical place where he works, he will take many things that are embarrassing to the public as his job. However, gender differences are also something that needs special attention at work. Take myself as an example. Some young women see a doctor, but if they need a physical examination because of heart discomfort, I will ask the patient's wishes and be accompanied by a female nurse. For example, auscultation of the heart, auscultation of the aorta and so on. In particular, some patients are very concerned about this factor, so I am more concerned. Generally, female nurses will be present for inspection. If there is really no gender difference, then why do we pay attention to these details in our work?
In fact, my major is not the most sensitive, and some majors are even more sensitive, such as gynecology, breast, anorectal, reproduction and so on. Even gastroenterology may involve colonoscopy, which is sometimes embarrassing for ordinary people. Doctors in these departments often serve patients of the opposite sex. Their major is like this. If we think too much about sex, then our medicine can stop. Because we can't be transgender, let alone diagnosis and treatment. But we can try our best to take care of patients' embarrassment and protect patients' privacy within a reasonable range.
Therefore, there are gender differences in the eyes of doctors, but many times they are treating patients and saving lives. They should not delay the treatment of patients too much because of gender differences.
To say that there are gender differences in the eyes of doctors, it is necessary to consider the emotional experience of some patients of the opposite sex in the process of diagnosis and treatment. In the face of unmarried young girls, male doctors will try to let female nurses be present together, or the patients' families be present, instead of conducting physical examinations for them alone. Whether it is to avoid suspicion or humanization, in short, male doctors will take this into account and will not embarrass young girls.
We have treated unmarried women with ectopic pregnancy rupture and bleeding, and male doctors are very stiff when they ask. At this time, male doctors will ask female doctors for help, or ask other female nurses for help.
From this perspective, there are gender differences in the eyes of doctors.
To say that doctors are gender neutral means that in the process of diagnosis and treatment, no matter whether the patient is male or female, same sex or opposite sex, in the eyes of doctors, they are all the same patients. Their attention is focused on pathological changes and diseases. Moreover, no matter during the operation or during the physical examination, doctors are not empty except patients: in the operating room, there are as few as three or four people and as many as a dozen people; During diagnosis and treatment, patients are often accompanied by family members or friends.
Doctors see many patients every day. Among these patients, there are people of the same sex and the opposite sex. However, male doctors in breast and obstetrics and gynecology face women almost every day. It is estimated that there is no gender difference in the eyes of male doctors in this uniform.
Doctors and patients, in fact, should be in close contact, such as physical examination, visual inspection, touch, knock, listen and so on. The doctor's hand should be in contact with the patient's body. This kind of close contact is inevitable and unavoidable. At this time, doctors are doctors, patients are patients, and nothing else.
There are gender differences in the eyes of doctors, but at the same time, there is no gender difference. Why do I say that? Please let me explain it to you slowly.
Because doctors are divided into men and women, they pay special attention to protecting patients' privacy. When a male doctor examines a female patient, he needs to have a third person present and have a sense of love and injury. Male doctors need to pay special attention to female patients, especially unmarried female patients, if breast, perineal area, anus and other parts are involved. The gender difference in doctors' eyes is mainly aimed at patients, who need to take care of their feelings.
For us doctors, we need to treat every patient equally. We should treat every patient seriously, regardless of the sex of the patient. In the eyes of doctors, there is only disease, not gender. When we go to the operating table, we will only pay attention to the sick part, how to complete the operation smoothly and perfectly, and will not pay attention to other contents. From this perspective, there is no gender difference in the eyes of doctors, only patients and diseases.
For patients, it is necessary to be honest with the doctor when seeing a doctor, because the questions asked by the doctor may involve some privacy, such as menstrual history, marriage and childbearing history, sexual history and so on. Some patients have obviously had sex, and they have been menopausal for several months, but they actually kept it from the doctor, and they actually used the urine of their peers instead of urine. The diagnosis of ectopic pregnancy bleeding is really harmful.
If you meet a doctor of the opposite sex when you see a doctor, you will be a little embarrassed and shy. This is normal. If you care, you can talk to the doctor and change to a doctor of the same sex.
It is quite common for patients to have "gender discrimination" in hospitals. For doctors, there is definitely a gender division, but when grading, in the face of diseases, especially when time is the schedule of diseases, there is no energy to divide gender. After a long time, we can talk. For a doctor with medical ethics, it is just an organ, and their duty is to cure diseases and save lives. Nowadays, there are more and more male doctors in obstetrics and gynecology. I have read some other reports that male doctors are more secure and have a higher success rate in surgery than female doctors.
Do doctors feel ashamed when they see the private parts of the opposite sex? No, if there is any feeling, it should be the novelty I faced for the first time during my internship. Doctors don't care about your figure when they make a diagnosis. They see too many patients every day and concentrate on the symptoms. Many years later, they will not remember what a patient looks like, but only a typical case. When you see a doctor, you don't have to feel shy and embarrassed. The doctor didn't take it seriously for a long time.
There are male doctors and female doctors in the hospital, and doctors or nurses of the same sex will not be assigned because of gender requirements. Hospital staff are super busy, and one person is responsible for many people's diseases. If you really care about the gender of the doctor, you can make an appointment with an expert before seeing a doctor.
But then again, doctors are ordinary people. Different fingers, people have likes and dislikes, and there are some doctors with malicious intentions, but after all, they are a minority and cannot represent this group. I hope that there will be more and more doctors with medical ethics in the future, and there will be fewer and fewer contradictions between doctors and patients!