Everyone grows up in different environments, which leads to different outlook on life and values. Everyone has a different personality. Some people are enthusiastic, while others are reserved. Different personalities have different views on the same thing. This difference will affect the choice. Some people say that life is to do multiple-choice questions. Personality directly determines the answer, just like taking a fork in the road. We all say that "personality determines success or failure" and "three years old means old, and seven years old means old". Character can be said to run through your life. On the surface, resources, contacts and general trend are indispensable "hardware" for success, but a person's own software-personality can not be ignored. Personality is not only an influence, but also determines the success or failure of a person's life. A person's career, family, interpersonal relationship and physical and mental health all depend on this so-called personality. The success of successful people lies not only in their superhuman wisdom, but also in their character strengths. As long as you choose a career that suits your personality, you can succeed. The limitations of each of us in life are related to personality, our stagnation is related to personality, the cost of our life mistakes is related to personality, the repeated cost of life is related to personality, and the self-bottleneck that we can't break through is related to personality. We think we all know, but nothing is related to personality. When mindfulness becomes an act, it can become a habit, thus forming a character. People with different personalities often deal with the same thing in different ways, resulting in different results and different evolved lives. The quality of personality can determine a person's success or failure, and it can also determine a person's life height. A positive person is like the sun, where it shines; Negative people are like the moon, and the fifteenth day of the first lunar month is different. Attitude is everything. What kind of attitude and what kind of future; Personality determines fate, and what kind of personality there is, what kind of life there is. Personality determines the success or failure of life. Does personality determine a person's fate? What do you think of this conclusion? Professor Li Su from Beijing Institute of Psychological Medicine affirmed that personality has an influence on success, and the sign of success is that your behavior has reached your expected goal. In order to achieve your desired goal, personality can affect people's decision-making ability before reaching the goal. Tyrants and ambitious political leaders in history, as far away as Qin Shihuang and as close as Hitler, are violent, treacherous and gloomy people; Resourceful and versatile politicians are cautious, shrewd and deeply loved, such as the first president of the United States, Washington, and our Premier Zhou. Weak and indecisive people are usually traitors, such as Zhao Ji in Song Huizong and Zhao Huan in Song Qinzong. "But success and ambition are two concepts," Professor Li went on. "The careerist's personality has its outstanding side, sometimes even morbid, such as Hitler. Historical studies have confirmed that he suffers from diseases such as schizophrenia, and these pathological physiology causes morbid personality deformity. " So can you change your personality for success? In real life, no one can have all the characteristics of a typical extroverted or introverted personality. Most people have both characteristics, but which is the main one. Personality is a kind of personality orientation formed in the early stage of human growth and development, which will be further improved under the influence of acquired education. If there is no significant change, personality can hardly be changed, and there are no effective drugs and methods to change people's personality now. The so-called' personality defect' actually refers to personality defect. If you train for a long time under the guidance of regular psychological professionals, you may learn to avoid or restrain some behaviors with personality defects, but it is impossible for modern science to change your personality. As the old saying goes, "A leopard cannot change his spots." The key to success is a person's level of wisdom and hard work, and personality plays a role in fueling the flames at most, so don't be misled by those false reports, and use your personality to determine your chances of success. Doing that may have a certain incentive effect, but more is to delay yourself! Personality determines the success or failure of life. 3 Personality determines the value of charm. Experience: God is unfair, and natural beauty is always more attractive. The experiment said: If you match the same photo with a positive personality, the charm will be greatly increased, and the aesthetics are really not so objective. How to make yourself look more attractive? People tend to pay attention to appearance. Women without soft skin or hourglass figure, men without sculptural muscles and high altitude are often not confident in their charm. People usually think that "good-looking" exists objectively and can only change their image through plastic surgery or going to the gym. However, are people so superficial just by looking at their appearance? Is it because you are plain and unwilling to have plastic surgery that you are doomed to lack charm? Tell everyone a good news, the answer is no! Handsome men and beautiful women have nothing to be proud of. Whether a person looks attractive or not is subjective to some extent. The so-called "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" is the truth. People's eyes are easily influenced by each other's personality. "Beauty of mind" makes the appearance more beautiful. On 20 10, Swami and his colleagues studied the influence of personality on appearance. They asked men to evaluate the "charm index" of photos of women with different body types (from Daiyu type to plump type). Some groups were told that the women in the photos have positive personalities (cheerful, lovely, meticulous, open, emotionally stable, etc.). ), some groups were told that these women have negative personalities, while others were not told any information about them. The results show that the "most attractive" figure has been recognized by all participants. However, compared with the group that didn't get any information about the women in the photo, the group that was told positive personality information considered "attractive" had significantly more diverse bodies. This group of people told negative personality information is more important, and they think that "attractive" women have significantly narrower physical standards. In 2007, the research of Lewandowski, Allen and Gee also supported this conclusion. They studied men and women-56 college boys and 22 college girls. They were asked to evaluate the "charm value" of the opposite sex in the photo; Then, complete a distracting task; Then look at the photo again-at this point, the characters in the photo are added with descriptions of their personalities. Participants need to re-evaluate the "charm value" of the opposite sex. The comparison before and after shows that whether the characters in the photos are "good-looking" or not, people with positive personality are considered more attractive, while people with negative personality are not so attractive. Information about personality affects both male and female participants, and women are more sensitive to "negative" personality. This effect will eventually affect whether participants are willing to date the opposite sex in the photo. Another study by Paunonen found that honesty in the eyes of others also affects whether a person is attractive in the eyes of others. Coincidentally, naturalistic research also shows that the attractiveness of appearance is influenced by familiarity, love, respect, talent and hard work. This effect affects both men and women. In short, a person's personality will affect whether Ta is attractive in the eyes of others. This means ... as Niffin and Wilson concluded, "If you want to look more attractive, then become a valuable social partner". To some extent, many people have personal experience of this: with the deepening of understanding, the initial strangers gradually become familiar and may become "cute"; Sometimes, two people even start dating-and they don't look at each other's looks at first. How to use this effect 1) to cultivate a positive personality and list your own characteristics-don't just look in the mirror and see your inner beauty and ugliness. Maybe personality charm can be worth losing 20 Jin or gaining 2 cm. Make yourself more active, friendly, lovely, emotionally stable and willing to experience new things. At the same time, don't neglect honesty, diligence and respect for others, but also show your talents reasonably. 2) Take your time. After all, the first impression mainly comes from appearance. If you want your personality to affect your image in the eyes of others, you must first let others know your personality. Therefore, under the premise of not causing too much pressure on the other side, show your personality charm. You can make yourself look more attractive in a relaxed conversation. Then gradually upgrade-flirting, buying people drinks, dating ... this may increase the chances of success. 3) Perseverance will win. The promotion of personality to charm is not once and for all, and personality charm needs to be maintained at all times. If the personality becomes less attractive, the attractiveness of appearance will also be discounted. So, keep a positive personality-even if your appearance is attractive, you should keep it. Obviously, "beauty" refers not only to appearance, but also to the heart! Of course, the promotion of personality to charm is still limited, and physical characteristics have an undoubted influence on attractiveness. However, the role of personality should not be underestimated. To sum up, if you want to be attractive all the time, you must constantly cultivate your own personality charm.