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The pace of life of modern people is getting faster and faster. In order to adapt to this fast-paced society, fast food came into being, so that people can enjoy delicious food when they arrive at the store.
Later, taxi platforms such as Didi appeared, allowing people to quickly find travel tools anytime and anywhere, which facilitated people's travel and shortened the waiting time.
In addition to the accelerated pace of food, clothing, housing and transportation, people's marriage is also quietly accelerating, and flash marriage was born. From acquaintance to marriage, some people even completed this process in just a few days, but is it really feasible to get married so soon?
Can you be sure for months or even days that the other person is the partner you want to spend your life with?
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Xiao Ran is a hothead. She does everything in a hurry, even her own marriage is no exception.
Before returning home during the Spring Festival holiday, Xiao Ran met a distant relative at a family gathering. He was originally a brother who could not be together, but Xiao Ran felt cordial for no reason. In her own words, it was a brief encounter, and it hit it off. Goodbye.
Despite parents' opposition, Xiao Ran married him after knowing him for three months. On the first day of their marriage, they had a fierce quarrel because her husband lost Xiao Ran's beloved golden retriever. It turns out that Xiao Ran's husband hates dogs so much that he is not allowed to keep dogs at home.
He has been with Xiao Ran for six years, and he is already a golden retriever like a family. Xiao Ran didn't agree with her husband to drive him away, and they quarreled for the first time since they met.
In the quarrel, the two men refused to give way to each other and turned red.
At this moment, Xiao Ran realized that the men around him were so strange. He is no longer as polite as he was when he first met, he is no longer as accommodating as he was on the first date, and he is no longer whispering as he was on the phone.
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Xiao Ran now finds that he doesn't know the man in front of him. He didn't know he was so unreasonable and hysterical when he lost his temper.
So she flinched, and suddenly she found that her love for him was only her beautiful side, only her imaginary side, the real him, which she could not accept.
She can't accept that he doesn't wash his feet before going to bed, can't accept his fierce expression when quarreling, and can't accept that he doesn't like his blonde hair.
Three days after marriage, Xiao Ran ended this hasty marriage.
The biggest drawback of flash marriage is that there is not enough time to get to know each other. Even when you marry him, you don't know what kind of person he is, whether his living habits are compatible with himself, whether he has shortcomings that he can't accept, or even whether he has bad hobbies.
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When you don't know a person well enough, marrying him and living together will inevitably lead to great contradictions.
When these contradictions and conflicts can't be solved, it may lead to marriage change, which is also the reason why most people leave after flash marriage.
Xiao Ran was lucky to get away with it. If she has children, it's not just her own business.
Just like Yingying, she was attracted by her husband's resolute personality and married her husband in less than four months.
After marriage, Yingying is infatuated with her husband like an innocent girl. Everything looked so beautiful that soon they gave birth to a boy.
But gradually, Yingying found that her husband's male chauvinism became more and more serious, and his desire for control was very strong, which not only interfered with his dress, but even interfered with his normal communication with his male friends.
At the worst, her husband even hit her. Yingying thought about divorce, but at the sight of the starving child in her arms, she hesitated and fell into a dilemma.
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Actually, it's not that flash marriage is not allowed, but the risk of flash marriage is very high. A short contact can't make you fully understand a person. Don't make impulsive decisions under the temporary stimulation of hormones.
After all, marriage is a major event in life, and it can be said that it is a woman's second reincarnation, so we must be cautious.
Even if you are not absolutely sure, you must be 99% sure to get married with each other. You can get married before you know each other's temperament and personality. If only he were a modest gentleman. If he is a demon, it's too late to regret it.
Just like Xiao Ran and Yingying in the article, they didn't have enough time to know the character of the man they chose, and they didn't find each other's shortcomings until they got married, but it was too late to regret.
Girl, don't get married in a hurry. You have to observe for a period of time, ranging from six months to three to five years. The most important thing is not time, but whether you really know him and whether he is really suitable for you.
Fast food can only fill the stomach, but it can't bring the flavor of the ingredients to the extreme. Cooking slowly can make delicious food, and the dishes are still like this, not to mention that we are married. Eating bad food is only temporary. If we marry an unhappy husband, it will affect us for life.
Let's get to know him well, get married slowly and live slowly.
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