Have you ever found a phenomenon in life: the less capable men are, the more they like to boss around at home. Marrying him is destined to be a trivial matter all his life, and it is very difficult to live a stable life for a few days; The more capable a man is, the more stable his mood is and the more he knows how to love his wife.

The measure of a man's reliability is not how beautiful he is externally, but his attitude towards the people closest to him.

As the saying goes, "everything has a cause and effect", and a wife who is nourished by a happy marriage will in turn improve her partner's luck. Therefore, those men who are kind to their wives often have a smooth career and are more likely to succeed.

0 1. The better you are to your wife, the longer you will live.

Foreign scholars have conducted research for 26 years. Subjects included 3336 males and 1499 females, ranging in age from 48 to 62. The results show that male immune system is more sensitive to marital status. Specifically, men who are unhappy and unsuccessful in marriage are more likely to die young; Men who have experienced many marital failures will have a significant increase in chronic inflammation in their bodies.

In short, men who are unhappy in marriage are more likely to get sick and affect their life span. And capable men often have big patterns and great wisdom. They know the family and everything, know the happiness of their wives, and decide the temperature of a family.

Therefore, no matter how high their career is, they will cherish their wives from their bones and practice them in life. When wives are coaxed to be happy, their lives will be more comfortable and they will live longer.

To be kind to your wife is to know how to respect her.

Although this era is different from the past, there are still many men who don't know how to respect their other half at all, and often don't regard her as their wife, but just an accessory.

He often thinks that women just have long hair and short knowledge, so they shouldn't have any opinions and should listen to themselves. Therefore, in daily life, he can't tolerate any different opinions from women at all, and will always want to show his authority in front of women.

A capable man is different, because he knows a lot of people outside and is respected by others, so he doesn't need to take a stand in front of women and maintain his self-esteem. Compared with always trying to compete with and attack women, he only respects women's ideas and is willing to listen carefully.

Because he knows very well that although they are husband and wife, a woman is only herself first, she should have her own wonderful life and she should be respected. This is not only the responsibility of the husband, but also the right that the wife should enjoy.

03. Being kind to your wife means understanding her efforts.

Director Ang Lee once said: "Husband and wife love each other, that is, to be kind first and then to love. Only by thanking each other for their kindness will we love each other more. " Paying attention to each other's efforts and knowing how to praise and appreciate each other are preservatives for a happy marriage.

And some men, even if their wives are busy for this family and sacrifice their careers, often feel that women have made no contribution, and it is women who have dragged him down that will make him so unhappy. This kind of man, he always thinks from his own point of view and never knows how to take care of women's emotions. Sometimes women are badly wronged, but he still thinks women are looking for trouble.

People who are truly capable are different. He can realize that the success of his career is not because of his good luck, but because of his strong backing at home. He knows more about the reasons behind it than always thinking that women are unreasonable. He can always see women's efforts, and then he is very considerate of women's hard work and will feel more distressed for women.

04. To be kind to your wife is to tolerate her willfulness.

The more capable people are, the more they understand the value of family harmony, and family happiness is hard to come by. A man's real ability lies not in how much career he has created, but in how he manages his family career and treats his wife well.

Many women are always willful when they are in love. I am willful again and again, but with the love of men, it seems that everything is not a problem. For those men who don't want to be tolerant, it will make love desperate.

Is it wrong for girls to be willful? It is right in the eyes of those who tolerate her, and annoying in the eyes of those who do not tolerate her. As Mr. Lu Xun said: "I love you, and you will be willful again. This is called personality; If I don't love you, even if you are as gentle as a cat, I think you will lose your hair. "

In fact, there are family chores every day. How can a woman not be willful? For men, life will be good if they tolerate their wives more.

05. Being nice to your wife means being strict with yourself.

There are always people who think that there are wives at home and other women outside. When they get home, they can't do anything, just sit on the sofa and play with their mobile phones, and then watch the women busy, which is enough to prove that they are great.

However, people who have this idea are mostly not very capable people. A truly successful man knows very well that quality is more important than quantity, and it is more important to live a good life behind closed doors than to look great in the eyes of others.

He has seen all kinds of scenes, and it is obvious that people outside are not sincere. He also knows that only when his family is happy can he truly feel happiness, which will be more helpful to his career.

So in order to make himself really rich, he will be more loyal than anyone else and have no time or mind to deal with other women. At home, he has no shelf at all, and only shares housework with his wife.

06. Being kind to his wife is a man's lifelong skill.

It is said that whether a family is happy or not depends only on women. If a woman is likable and rosy, her family must be very happy. The happiness of a wife determines the happiness index of a family. A clever man knows how to be kind to his wife, because this is a man's skill and pattern.

The wife is the thermometer of the whole family. As long as you have enough love, she will definitely rise to the temperature you need, be your warm sun in winter, and make you happy until you are old.

Therefore, when a woman evaluates a man, it depends on whether the women around him are really happy, because a capable man will spoil his wife very much, and any woman who marries him will feel very happy.

Knowing that you are kind to your wife is a man's greatest skill in his life.