For women, age is especially a sensitive word. We use all kinds of high-end skin care products, do medical beauty, do yoga and go running ... all of these are to make the years leave traces on our faces and bodies as little as possible. We want to stay young no matter what.
However, the fact is that aging may only be a moment, and you are caught off guard and helpless. Don't be afraid, be prepared. The Korean drama Dazzling tells us a story of getting old in an instant.
The play started in February 1 1 and is currently being broadcast. Douban 8.4 points. Many netizens commented that this drama is full of laughter and warmth, but there is also a little bitterness and helplessness in life. Although the rhythm of the plot is slow, it has a strong sense of life and is very suitable.
An audience who likes warmth, healing style and daily life scenes.
Dazzle tells the story of Jin Huizi, a 25-year-old girl, getting old in a blink of an eye.
When Keiko was five years old, she found a watch on the beach that could make time to go back. Every time she wants to stay in bed and fail in the exam, she will use her watch to go back and correct her mistakes, but at the cost of accelerating Keiko's own aging, which also makes her look much more mature than her peers.
Keiko decided not to use this watch, but God played a joke on her. Because his father had a car accident and died after the rescue failed, Keiko dialed his watch countless times and went to save his father countless times in order to save him. She finally succeeded, but she also instantly became an 80-year-old woman older than her parents.
This drama is wrapped in the core of going back in time, which not only tells the story of affection and love, but also tells the plight of many old people.
Keiko, who is dying in an instant, is experiencing the difference in physical function between the elderly and the young every day:
I didn't feel tired easily when I jumped stairs. Now breathe after 5 steps, 10 steps, and the knees start to creak. Don't talk about running, you can't run at all.
You can't sing high notes in the ballroom, but you will fall asleep in the middle. After walking for dozens of minutes, you have to rest for dozens of minutes. Although I want to run and jump like I did when I was young, my body is no longer allowed, and my state is "worse every day."
Keiko's condition also confirms the characteristics of human aging described by the famous American surgeon Artu Gwende.
Gwender once said that no matter what you do to stay young, aging is irreversible, because-
Since the age of 30, the peak value of heart beating has decreased year by year, and the length and speed of running can't catch up with the past;
Around the age of 40, the quality and strength of muscles began to decline;
Since the age of 50, bones have lost their bone density at the rate of 1% per year.
At the age of 70, the gray matter of the brain is missing, leaving the skull about 2.5 cm empty, and the elderly are prone to intracranial hemorrhage after being hit on the head;
At the age of 80, we will lose 25%-50% of our muscles;
By the age of 85, 40% people have Alzheimer's disease defined in textbooks.
Sick, slow-moving, slow-witted ... In fact, needless to say, it can be seen from the relatives around us that the elderly will have more and more physical problems as they grow older. In severe cases, people may be incontinent, completely need the care of others, and even die of cancer.
As Keiko's mother said, "getting old is just becoming a baby again." You can't do without the help of others. " Don't old and sick people need the care of others just like newborn children? It's just that people have different attitudes towards care. They regard it as a burden when taking care of the elderly, and feel sad and depressed in the process. However, babies are like budding buds, and people feel more joy and desire in care.
In the face of old health, Keiko initially felt desperate and pessimistic. For her, her life was forced to press the fast forward button. So, she began to lock herself in her room all day, not eating or communicating with others. She silently sentenced herself to death, feeling that there would be no hope and the possibility of returning to youth in this life.
In her opinion, the old woman is worthless, just a burden to her family. She hasn't started to honor her parents yet, but she's dying. This is Keiko's initial misunderstanding of himself, which actually reflects the prejudice of society against the elderly.
Keiko tried to run away from home. After failing, she decided to go to the "Children's Garden for the Elderly", a place where the elderly can eat, entertain and communicate with their peers. Every morning, the "Children's Park for the Elderly" will have a special car to take the elderly to the park, and then send them home safely at night.
It was a good thing that the "old children's garden" took good care of the elderly. Everyone is happy to play games, dance and do handicrafts together. But in fact, the managers of the "Children's Park for the Elderly" make a living by selling invalid health care products to the elderly at high prices and defrauding insurance money. They regard the elderly as a group with low IQ and can be fooled, and do not really give them sincere care, which makes it easy for the elderly who know the truth to fall into a deeper sense of disappointment and abandonment.
In addition to feeling abandoned and becoming a burden to the family, external feedback will also aggravate the loneliness of the elderly.
When the emergency signal of the shopping mall sounded, Keiko was clearly the first person to walk into the elevator, but was forced to get out of the elevator under the meaningful gaze of a group of young people. Keiko's panic makes people feel distressed, while the young people's "blaming" eyes make people feel chilling.
When Keiko walked into the plastic surgery hospital, she was ready with a happy mood, but she was laughed at by a pair of young people for plastic surgery at such an old age and could not help but teach each other a few words angrily.
All these, such as others, have actually exposed the prejudice and discrimination of society and young people against the elderly. Including in many advertisements, most of the old people are portrayed as lonely, lonely and unaccompanied sad people. They are either hunched over, doing nothing or lifeless, or waiting for their children to come home. In short, people feel that getting old is a very sad thing.
The data shows that in 20 15 years, the suicide rate of the elderly aged 65-85 in China is 2.75-7.08 times that of the general population, and this number is still rising.
The general views of the society on the elderly, such as uselessness and declining IQ, and the specific behaviors caused by the corresponding ideas, such as alienation and incomprehension, all affect their self-cognition and judgment, and aggravate their depression and loneliness. Because there is not much material and emotional feedback, suicide has become an option for the elderly to end loneliness.
Fortunately, Keiko's mother and girlfriends * * * helped Keiko build a warm and happy living environment, especially Keiko's girlfriends. Even when she suddenly aged, she stayed with her, drinking with her and shopping with her, which made Keiko feel extremely happy and relieved her daily depression.
Only by treating the old people in life as a full-fledged real individual and truly understanding them can they be integrated into their own lives.
No one can be the enemy of time, but time can't be swallowed up, so Keiko began to learn to accept the fact of getting old. Life after that doesn't seem to be bad to the end. She accepted the unsuspecting people around her to call her "grandma"; When she was young, it was difficult to find a job. Later, she put down her attitude and found a job, which was highly praised by her boss. Even the old man pursued her fiercely all day and followed her everywhere.
Keiko, as always, wears bright clothes, sometimes yellow wool, sometimes denim vest and a small silk scarf, which is in sharp contrast with the old ladies who are replaced by black, white and gray, and looks full of vitality.
Although we can't stop the passage of time and the growth of age, just like Keiko's 80-year-old body is still a 25-year-old heart, getting old doesn't mean getting old. Age is just a number. As long as you keep a positive and young heart, you are not afraid of the invasion of time.
Carina Lau, a famous star, once expressed his views on aging in Here We Come. When someone asked her which era she most wanted to go back to, she replied, "I really like this era. I don't like my previous time, because you are confused, uncertain and unconfident. I am in this state now, which is my fullest and most confident. "
How confident and calm is a woman in her fifties who can express her enjoyment of her present age so frankly in front of the screen?
This undoubtedly tells us: since no one can escape the trap of time, why not accept the established track and choose to enjoy the present?
Enjoy every moment of getting old, face the reality of getting old, don't be bound by age, don't dwell on the years when you were young. The key is to try new things and challenges with a positive attitude, just like when you were young, in order to make yourself happier, more comfortable and perhaps more dazzling.