Nowadays, in many big cities, especially Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, the age at which they register for marriage is gradually increasing, whether they are men or women. Some female friends have not even gotten married in their thirties. In rural areas, people usually get married and have children in their twenties. Recently, Hangzhou released its marriage registration data for 2017. I was shocked.

1. The average registration age of girls in Hangzhou

The Hangzhou Civil Affairs Bureau released the 2017 Hangzhou marriage registration data. In 2017, an average of 180 couples got married every day. The average marriage registration age for men is 33.1 years old and for women is 31.0 years old, which is 1.3 years later than the same period last year. Among them, the average age of first marriage for men was 28.6 years old and for women was 27.1 years old. Compared with the same period last year, men were 0.1 years later and women were 0.4 years later. In addition to marriages, the number of divorce and remarriage registrations is also on the rise.

2. The main reasons for the widespread late marriage

1. The reason for late marriage is that the material conditions for marriage are immature

Some people say that most people born in the 1980s are 30 years old They all had nothing before, except the rich second generation. The housing problem is a major difficulty that history has thrown at those born in the 1980s. When it comes to housing issues, it involves another issue, which is the difficulty of finding a job. This is the essential problem. Precisely because the post-80s generation is facing huge employment pressure, many employers have taken this opportunity to significantly lower their salaries. This situation generally limits their income levels and their purchasing power. The housing issue is essentially an income issue. Getting married is naturally not as simple as getting a certificate. As many money-worshiping girls say, it requires a living. Life requires money, money is needed in all aspects, but if the material conditions are not mature, how can one get married.

2. The reason for late marriage is that the psychological age cannot bear the pressure after marriage.

The generation born in the 1980s can also be said to be a relatively happy generation. Because of being the only child, They get the greatest love from their parents. Therefore, on the whole, they are also happier than any other generation (naturally excluding the post-90s and post-00s generations). In a sense, these loves do not all play a positive role for them. Love sometimes restricts a person's independence and weakens a person's ability to bear. Therefore, after being bathed in the sunshine of their parents for a long time, they are rarely able to face and bear something independently all of a sudden. Many people born in the 1980s suffer from post-marital depression. This is because they did not foresee the pressure they would face after marriage, or they overestimated their ability to bear it.

3. The reason for late marriage is that working status restricts married life

As mentioned earlier, with the increase in employment pressure and the increasing competition in the workplace, the post-80s generation is now In addition to low wages, they also face huge work pressure. The author once learned from a survey focusing on the work of college graduates that today's college students rarely have the experience of not working overtime, and they rarely have the experience of being able to take full and double holidays for a continuous period of time, and this is especially true in private companies. A graduate once said that they never got off work before 10 o'clock, which refers to the evening, and went to work as usual early the next morning, and this happened every day for several months. The author was surprised, but through subsequent in-depth understanding, I found that the situation of such college graduates was by no means accidental. Therefore, under this kind of working condition, the marriage life is actually in name only. The husband and wife have no time to spend together at all, so how can they be considered a husband and wife.

4. The reason for late marriage is because we spend less time together and more divorces.

There was a period when long-distance relationships were quite popular. Many people said that as long as you love each other, distance is not a problem. For those born in the 1980s, distance is a big problem. This is not to say that they deny the greatness of love, but that they consider the problem more carefully. So many of them temporarily put their marriage on hold because of distance. Love can be without the restriction of distance, but marriage cannot. As the same saying goes, a marriage between two people must be built on the basis of life. How can two people run a good marriage without much life?

5. The reason for delaying marriage is because the social atmosphere puts freedom above marriage and love.

In fact, freedom as a concept has been advocated for many years, but today, people are gradually Understand the true meaning of freedom. The generation born in the 1980s can be said to be the generation that can best appreciate freedom, because they have experienced restrictions and tasted freedom. For those born in the 1990s who enjoy freedom without much restraint, it is difficult for them to understand the value of freedom. Therefore, once the post-80s generation matures and can control their own path, they will naturally put the concept of freedom above everything else, including marriage and love. If marriage binds them and does not allow them to be free, then they will be tempted not to get married for the time being.

3. What are the pros and cons of late marriage

Benefits of late marriage

1. It is beneficial to development

Young people just need to improve themselves , to achieve what they want in life experience and economic level. Not to mention how much young people should do, but they must not let themselves lack pursuit and fighting spirit. Nowadays, many young men and women who get married prematurely are struggling to raise children. They are stressed because they do not have a solid economic foundation. If you work hard when you are young and develop yourself better, you will not have to worry about financial issues in order to have children in the future.

2. Conducive to family happiness

Many men and women who marry prematurely do not live happily because their thoughts are not mature enough and there are many frictions in personality and lifestyle. , so they often quarreled, eventually leading to divorce. Men and women who marry late have already had enough life experience and are mature enough in their thinking. They know how to be tolerant and measured in doing things, which can make the couple live a happy life. After long-term struggle, they have a certain economic foundation and the stability of the family. Very large, such family life will be happier.

3. It is conducive to the growth of children

Family education is very important for children. In a family that marries early, the parents are people with imperfect ideas, so the education of their children will not be treated well. It will be very comprehensive, and young parents have to bear heavy financial pressure to raise their children and do not have much time to educate their children. Families that marry later are more conducive to the growth of their children. First of all, parents are rich in life experience. People can educate their children well. At the same time, families who marry late have a certain financial foundation, and parents can spend more time educating their children.

Disadvantages of late marriage

1. Impact on the quality of sexual life

The urgency of sexual impulse in men will weaken after the age of 30. At the age of 40, unless there is abnormal stimulation , generally unable to achieve sustained ejaculation quickly. However, older unmarried women lack a normal sex life and long-term sexual repression leads to atrophy of the female private parts due to disuse, reduced or dry secretions, and inflammation of the genitourinary tract.

2. Fertility decreases significantly

Generally, men are physically strong and have the highest sperm quality between the ages of 25 and 35. After that, the quantity and quality of sperm will decrease. In addition, the University of St. Andrews in the UK found that after the age of 30, women’s egg cell reserves decrease by 90%, and their fertility is significantly reduced.

3. Increased risk of fetal malformation and premature death

The risk of premature birth for women aged 30 to 34 increases by 20%. Research shows that among those aged 25 to 29 who give birth, the incidence of Down syndrome babies is only 1/1500; those aged 30 to 34 are 1/900; those aged 35 to 39 rise to 1/300; and those over 45 years old reach 1/900. 40.

4. Endangering women’s health

According to a report by the World Health Organization, high-risk pregnancies among women over 35 years old are increasing, directly threatening the health of mothers and infants. The pelvic cavity of middle-aged women is basically fixed, the elasticity of the female private parts is reduced, and the contractility of the uterine muscles is weakened, making it easy for dystocia. The older the mother is, the higher the risk of maternal hypertension, gestational diabetes, and postpartum depression. Data show that older mothers account for more than 70% of patients with postpartum depression.

Although people's living standards have improved and their quality of life has also increased, as the average age at marriage registration has increased, people's happiness index has quietly decreased. Some girls have reached the age of three. I'm ten years old and I don't have a partner yet. If I don't worry, the family is probably already noisy. But even so, we still need to think about it ourselves. After all, there are pros and cons of marrying late. Think about it carefully. It's right to err on the side of excess, but we can't be too picky. .