My husband and I started dating in the third grade and got married three years after graduating from college. We had sex when we were in college. At first, every week, we were very excited to have sex once or twice. However, since we graduated from college, the number of sexual intercourse has been decreasing, sometimes once every half month, sometimes once every month, or even less. I wonder if my husband is having an affair, but my busy work and going home as soon as I have time have dispelled my doubts. I am constantly changing myself, from passive to active, but there are still many times when he used fatigue as an excuse to shirk, or let me "act" alone in bed, which made me feel bored. My husband is a very introverted person, who likes to play computer games and download some popular movies online. He also likes to do "morning classes", and I also accommodate him. He is my first and only man so far. I don't know how long it will take to be average or normal. I think many men have a high demand for sex. As far as I am concerned, I feel lonely under the present circumstances. I think I want to be needed and have more sex! Only in this way can I feel that he loves me. Please help me analyze, is my husband like the average man? There is so little sex between us. Is there something wrong with him? Expert's words: although the frequency of sexual life is evenly distributed among the public, it does not mean that everyone has any standard for achieving sexual life frequency. After all, it's not an assignment or an exam. The physiological and psychological needs of sex vary greatly among individuals, so it is difficult to measure them by an objective standard. From infatuation to marriage, the passion of sex will gradually cool down after a peak period. This is also a common phenomenon. This does not mean that people's physical ability is not as good as before, nor does it mean that people's sexual desire has really declined. It is more related to the way of sexual attraction and sexual coordination between two people. Sexual attraction is an animal instinct. In order to maintain the reproduction of species, nature endows male and female animals with the instinct of attracting each other. Most animals have this instinct, and people are no exception. There are many aspects of mutual attraction between men and women, among which physical attraction is very important, which is a relatively constant factor among many factors of sexual attraction. In addition to the sexual attraction of the body, it also depends on the concepts, beliefs and characteristics of both parties. Can you recall what attracted you most about your husband? Do he still have these characteristics? Do you still have a strong sexual reaction to these characteristics of him? In fact, you can also ask your husband this question, to see what attracted him when he chose to fall in love with you and inspired his passion for sex with you. Do you still have these characteristics, and does he still have a relatively obvious reaction to them? In addition, when couples get along for a long time, it is easy to feel "used to it", and sex seems to have become a "routine". Just like a woman bought a new dress. In the first few days, she will feel that this dress can improve her mood, but after wearing it for a few days, she will gradually become less excited. Men often feel the same way about women. In terms of sexual life, including the way of making love every time, if it is "unchanged for a hundred years", over time, people will feel that it is no longer as fresh and exciting as before. You said that he prefers to watch popular movies, which shows that he has no special problems in sexual desire, but he needs more novel sexual stimulation at present. When he doesn't take the initiative to you, it doesn't necessarily mean he will have an affair. For these changes of husband, you can ask him what kind of sex he likes. You said in your message that he prefers "morning classes" and you can accommodate him. It seems that you don't like this "morning class" way very much. Making love is a matter between two people, and it is a cooperative activity. It needs two people to create and share with each other. Over the years, you have changed from passive to active, which shows that you have made some self-adjustment. Although you may feel a little wronged, it is very helpful to coordinate your sexual relationship. In the future, you not only need to adjust yourself, but also need your husband to make some corresponding adjustments for your's feelings. Now it seems that you really need to have some specific discussions with each other, which will help you have a more harmonious sex life in the future. "Now, I feel very lonely. I think I want to be needed. I want to have more sex! Only in this way can I feel that he loves me. " How to understand this sentence of yours? Do you just need more sex, or do you want to feel that he needs and loves you? We know that sex and love are always mixed together in human beings, and it is difficult to distinguish them clearly. At the same time, sex and love are always two different concepts, so it is necessary to distinguish them. If you want him to love you more, you don't have to have sex, as long as he can show love and care for you in all aspects. Sex is not necessarily the only indicator and way for him to love you. It is better to change yourself than to expect to change others. Finally, I suggest you try more. For example, in sex, you can take care of some of his hobbies, or you can make love in your own way and create your own sexual characteristics. In this way, you can get more sexual pleasure by adjusting your way. Maybe these adjustments of yours can also drive him to respond to you in a new way, and let your's sexual life enter a new stage harmoniously. 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