Most people who are troubled by depression, anxiety, social phobia and bipolar disorder will subconsciously blame all the unfavorable factors on the outside world, environment or family background. Huangshan welcoming pine greets the eyes of the world with a handsome attitude, but we seldom pay attention to the barren environment where these pine trees grow. Maybe the environmental conditions after your birth are not as good as others'. Through hard work, we will take root in barren rocks, show our existence to the world with a straight posture, and create our own path.
When we begin to reject and accept the environment where we grew up at the subconscious level, the mind will stop developing and growing, and then continue to wander in various stories and plots woven by ourselves based on the thinking of the mind. Once you enter real life again, you will feel depressed, painful, anxious, depressed, depressed and annoyed. Negative emotions flooded in, thinking that only myself was suffering in this world and everyone else was happy, so I gave up my own way and began to repeat the mistakes of others!
Zhuangzi Qiushui recorded such a story. A man from the state of Yan went to Handan, the capital of Zhao, and saw the beautiful walking posture of the people there, so he followed. As a result, he not only learned differently, but also forgot his original road and had to climb back. The story of Handan toddler tells us. On the road of self-healing, we can only find our own methods and directions. Being your own therapist is the ultimate way to salvation.
People who fall into social phobia always envy others' intelligence and versatility. Through the judgment and analysis of the logical thinking of my mind, the conclusion is that my five senses are not exquisite enough, my social skills are not enough, and my language expression skills are not enough, so I went for plastic surgery, social intercourse or speech training. After all this trouble, I still can't solve the problem of social phobia, which leads to more neurosis symptoms.
People who are depressed always subconsciously portray themselves as victims of the real world, tying themselves up with their brains and thoughts and drawing a picture. Looking at the crowd outside the high wall in the sun, they couldn't help feeling: Why am I the only one suffering? So I pretended to be happy and liked to wander around the crowd wearing a mask, but the cage in my heart was still unbreakable, which led to the so-called smile depression.
In the state of obsessive-compulsive disorder, groups always try to absolutize the problem of small probability through thinking, and take precautions to make themselves live under absolute correctness and norms, because only in this way can they ensure their own safety, just like installing a trap waiting to be triggered in their own psychology and pretending to be like ordinary people all the time. Excessive introspection and self-entanglement, so that their body and mind began to disconnect, and their behavior became rigid and mechanical.
Imitate others and think you can take a shortcut, but you go wrong and go astray. What consciousness therapy (TOC) teaches us is to recognize the true nature of psychological activities, which is also the object we need to surrender. Pain and despair are not unique to you, and psychological problems are not your patent. Everyone is born with a chance to taste each other's taste: for example, fish drink water and know themselves well, but they are divided into high and low natures, infinitely belittling themselves and constantly looking for external reasons.
Perhaps walking on our own road, without the guidance of our predecessors, can't see the direction clearly, which will make us tremble with fear. Not everyone can bear this painful growth process, but it is certain that life will be really different after that lonely and painful journey. The road needs to be taken by yourself, and the problems need to be faced by yourself. This is the price of growth. As Eldridge Clifford said, "You can't solve the problem.
The road of life is tortuous and bizarre, but there are also many beautiful scenery along the way. We care about not only the destination, but also the scenery along the way and the mood of watching the scenery, and adjust our mood to deal with the twists and turns. I think no matter who experiences a sharp turn in the journey of life, they must give up some happiness and part of themselves. There is only one way to avoid giving up, and that is to stay where he is forever and not let his feet set foot on the journey again.
When you hesitate, your mind begins to stop developing, and symptoms are just by-products of your mind stopping growing. When you fight the symptoms to death, you will embark on the wrong spiritual path, which will not lead you to sunshine and smooth road, but will be exhausted because of internal friction. Teacher Fan compared the symptoms to monkeys. The normal state is that people tease monkeys, but when people are troubled by symptoms, they will use thinking analysis to suppress them and find ways to solve them. When they fall into vicious psychological interaction, they will become monkeys to tease people. Even if the symptoms come, live with them. That's just a small ornament in your life journey, which may temporarily affect your mood, but don't lose yourself and go astray because of the monkey's teasing.
The bible says that the door is wide and the road is big, and many people enter it. The road to eternal life, the door is very narrow, the road is very small, and few people find it. All you have to do is find your own spiritual path. The hardest thing in the world is to know yourself and examine your heart. It is not easy to know yourself, but it is something that must be experienced in life. Blindly pursuing external things will eventually become pain.
We should fully realize what we want, how to do it and how to make ourselves happy. If you are just busy, what is the difference between humans and machines? Carbohydrates just to survive. As Carl Gustav Jung said (1875- 196 1), those who look outward are dreaming, while those who look inward are awake. It is a difficult journey to go deep into your heart. How to find your own way from your heart can be found in the following columns:
In order to experience new things on the road of life, you must embrace everything with an open attitude, let the existing prejudices and opinions give way temporarily, let all new and unfamiliar things enter your senses, and an unexpected flower will bloom for you, presenting a mature self as much as possible, otherwise every minute of your life is just a repetition of the past, and you must completely release yourself, even at the expense of completely breaking your past self. In order to set foot on the road of one's own soul, like a swan in the blue sky crossing a trace, like an orchid in full bloom in an empty valley, it has no intention to declare its existence to others and does not have to follow others' footsteps.