"Self-image" is the key to human personality and behavior. Changing self-image can change people's character and behavior.
"Self-image" determines the boundary of personal achievement. It determines what you can and can't do. By expanding self-image, you can expand your "potential field".
As far as function is concerned, the brain and nervous system constitute a strange and complicated "goal-seeking mechanism". It is an internal automatic guidance system, which serves you as a "success mechanism" or is bad for you as a "failure mechanism", depending on how you manipulate it as a manipulator and set goals for it.
Whether self-image becomes better or worse depends not only on intelligence or speculative knowledge, but also on "experience". Your past creative experience may develop your self-image consciously or unconsciously.
People's nervous system can't distinguish "actual" experience from vivid and detailed imaginary experience.
Usually it takes at least 2 1 day for the mental image to change obviously. After plastic surgery, each patient needs an average of 2 1 day to adapt to new faces. After the arm or leg is amputated, the "phantom limb feeling" lasts for 2 1 day. After people move into a new house, it will take three weeks to feel that this is a "home". This phenomenon shows that 2 1 day is the shortest time for the old psychological image to disappear and the new psychological image to form.
Noah webster's definition of success is "satisfactorily achieving the goal pursued". What matters to you is the creative pursuit aroused by your own inner needs, inspiration and talent. Because you can play a role according to your own wishes, it can bring happiness and success.
Most of our self-beliefs are unconsciously formed according to our past experiences, our successes and failures, our humiliation and victories, and others' reactions to us, especially according to our childhood experiences.
Once an idea or belief related to oneself enters this portrait, it will become "real". We don't doubt its reliability, but just act according to it as if it were true.
All human behaviors, feelings, manners and even talents are always consistent with self-image. Act according to the person you imagine yourself to be; Moreover, even if you make all conscious efforts, even if you have willpower, you can't do anything else at all.
Numerous medical records show that no matter how old a person is, he has time to change his self-image and start a new life from now on.
Prescott Reich believes that personality is "a set of ideological systems" and thoughts must be consistent with each other. Ideas that are inconsistent with this system are rejected, "not believed" and cannot guide people's behavior; Ideas consistent with the system are adopted. The center of this thought-that is, its cornerstone-is an individual's self-ideal, that is, his self-image, or his self-concept.
It is not uncommon to be "extremely ugly". A recent survey of students in single-sex schools shows that 90% students are dissatisfied with their appearance. For some reason, almost the same proportion of our total population are ashamed of themselves.
Your self-image must be reasonably similar to yourself, neither more nor less.
When this self-image is complete and stable, you will feel "good". If threatened, you will feel worried and worried. When it adapts to you and can be proud, you will feel confident. You will be free to exist as yourself and express yourself freely, and you will play an appropriate role. If you become the object of shame, you will hide it and not let it show, then creative expression will be hindered, and you will be hostile and unable to get along with others.
When we are down and out to suppress our ability, waste our natural instinct and make ourselves suffer from anxiety, fear, self-condemnation and self-loathing, we completely stifle our available vitality and betray the talent given to us by the creator. When we abandon the wealth of life, we are in the embrace of death.
There is a "life instinct" in each of us, which always points to health and happiness and always aims at creating a richer life for individuals.
It is said that Schubert once told one of his friends that his creative process was to "recall" a song that neither he nor others had thought of. Many creative artists, like psychologists who study this creative process, are deeply impressed by the similarity of creative inspiration, sudden revelation, intuition and ordinary people's memory. Seeking a new idea or answering a question is actually very similar to recalling a name you have forgotten.
If you are serious about your work, you must have a strong desire. You must carefully consider the problem from all angles at the beginning-your creative mechanism will start-the "scanner" we mentioned earlier will scan the stored information or "grope" for the answer. It chooses an idea here, finds a fact there, and connects a series of past experiences-in other words, combines them into a meaningful whole, so that you can make up for your shortcomings, complete the equations you need, or "solve" your problems. When this answer comes to your mind, you may be thinking about other problems, even like a dream when your brain is asleep. When you feel something click, you immediately realize that this is the answer you are looking for.
1. The internal success mechanism must have a "goal"
2. The automatic mechanism always points to the "final result" and runs towards the goal. The "method" to achieve the goal may be unclear, but don't be discouraged.
Don't be afraid of making mistakes, and don't be afraid of temporary failure. All servo mechanisms use negative feedback to achieve their goals, or move on, and once errors occur in the process of moving forward, they will be corrected immediately.
4. Forget past mistakes and remember successful responses, so as to be imitated.
You must learn to trust your creative mechanism, don't worry too much about whether it can start, and don't try to interfere with it too consciously. You can't wait until you have the evidence. You must act as if there is evidence, and the evidence will come out. Emerson said, "Put it into action and you will gain strength."
A person's reactions, feelings and actions are always carried out according to his true imagination of himself and the environment.
This is a basic principle of thinking and our way of life.
Your actions and feelings are not based on what things are, but on your impression of them. You will have certain images about yourself, your world and the people around you. Your performance is also based on the truth and reality you think, not on the reality represented by the thing itself.
Psychologist R..A Vandell has proved that after a period of time, letting a person sit in front of the target every day and imagine him throwing darts at the target can improve the accuracy almost as much as the actual throwing practice.
Research Quarterly reported an experiment that proved that psychological exercise had an effect on improving shooting skills. A group of students practiced actual basketball throwing every day for 20 consecutive days, and recorded the results on the first and last day. The second group of students also recorded the results of the first day and the last day, but did not do any exercises during this period. The third group of students recorded the results of the first day, and then spent 20 minutes every day making imaginary shots. If they miss the shot, they will make corresponding corrections in their imagination.
The first group actually practiced for 20 minutes every day and scored 24% more goals. The second group didn't make progress because they didn't practice. In the third group, after imaginative practice, the goal was improved by 23%!
If you want to have an important conversation, such as applying for a job, he will advise you to prepare for the conversation in advance. Think about all the questions that may be asked in your mind and think about your own answers. Then rehearse the dialogue in your mind. Even if none of the questions you rehearse are useful, this kind of rehearsal in advance can work miracles. It gives you confidence. Although there is no need to recite lines in real life like acting on the stage, rehearsal can still help you answer freely and let you react naturally in different situations, because you have practiced natural reaction.
When doing something, don't use too much conscious effort or iron willpower. Don't worry too much, always thinking that everything you do may be wrong. You should relax your nerves, don't "do" with nervous force, but think about what you really want to achieve in your mind, and then "you" will undertake the task with creative success mechanism. In this case, thinking about the results you want will eventually force you to use "positive thinking". But you can't stop working or working because of this. Your efforts should be used to drive you to your goal, not to dwell on unnecessary psychological conflicts.
As long as the hypnotist tries to convince the hypnotized person that he is telling the truth, the hypnotized person's behavior will change because his thoughts and beliefs have changed. If you accept an image from yourself, from your teachers, parents, friends, advertisements or anywhere else, and firmly believe that this idea is true, then it is as powerful as what the hypnotist said to the hypnotized capital.
Inferiority often does not come from "facts" or "experience", but from our conclusion of facts and evaluation of experience. For example, I'm actually not as good as a weightlifter or dancer, but that doesn't mean I'm an inferior person. Paul Anderson and Arthur Morley can't operate. They are "inferior surgeons", but they are not "inferior people". It all depends on what and whose standards we use to measure ourselves.
Physical relaxation plays a key role in the process of releasing hypnosis. Our current beliefs, whether good or bad, true or false, are formed casually, without reluctance or "willpower." Our habits, good or bad, are formed in this way. According to this truth, we must go through the same process to form new beliefs and new habits.
Emile Gayer, a French pharmacist, made a blockbuster by studying "suggestibility" in 1920. He insists that human efforts are a major reason why most people can't make use of their inner strength. "If your proposal (ideal goal) wants to have an effect, it must contain no effort." Another famous motto of Juye is his "Law of Reaction": "If there is a conflict between will and imagination, imagination will always win the battle."