We all lived in such a mess in those years

Why are you in such a mess when you are supposed to be a youth with dreams?

Time is like a roulette wheel. As time goes by, time flies to the sky like a rocket, and no matter how beautiful the years are, they will eventually become the past, just like you never expected the sadness of yesterday. Youth is like this, looking for hope in confusion, burning the soul in despair. The time of youth passes in the blink of an eye, and it will escape if you are not careful. In the years of youth, everything is a test for us. Only if you can endure it, bear it, and learn from it will you grow.

Some people say that youth is a book, and we are the words on a white paper. The layers of words are like the stories we have experienced, accumulating and growing little by little.

Time will precipitate memories, and the dream will return to the past.

I always love to reminisce about my youth and all the good times in the past. Sometimes it’s the laughter with my brothers, sometimes I miss the sweetness when my former lovers were together, and sometimes I miss my parents. The figure when you held my hand has passed so many years in the blink of an eye. Listening to the songs we sang together and looking at the photos of the past, I couldn't help but shed tears. I love these people deeply.

No matter how beautiful the days are, they will eventually become the past. People always have to face the future. Even if they are reluctant to let go of people and things, they should slowly let go of them in the days to come, and learn to let go again. It's easier said than done, maybe youth is like this. Only by experiencing your wings can it become strong. Only by experiencing it can you know that you are not the only one in the world. Only by experiencing it can you learn how to take care of yourself.

1. We have all tried our best to love someone until in the end we were unable to do anything.

If I have someone to accompany me, I won’t get drunk. If someone loves me, I won’t wander. If someone cares about me, I won’t feel lonely even if I am in a strange city, because there is someone behind me. Help lovely people.

In order to get into a good university, I often work hard to memorize English and write test papers in the classroom after school. I have to force myself to persevere until I cry. You keep doing exercises and taking notes, but you can be efficient. But the results are always unsatisfactory, so you get even crazier, getting up in the middle of the night and carrying it secretly, day after day, sometimes even forgetting to eat and drink, just for the original goal, despite efforts again and again, there is still no significant result results, but you are used to this kind of enthusiasm, this kind of chicken-blooded days make you feel that every day is different and exciting. Finally you did it and successfully admitted to your beloved university. At this moment, all the grievances and hardships you suffered were The bitterness of perseverance, the tears and sweat shed have all blossomed for you, and you thank God and earth with excitement. At that moment you said that no matter how much suffering you have to endure for your dream, it is worth it.

After arriving at the university, you also started to become slack. As soon as you entered the freshman year, you saw many couples holding hands on campus. You also envied the time when you had someone to accompany you. Later, you attended the high school class reunion. On the Internet, a girl confessed her love to you. Although you had no feelings for her, you envied the days when you had someone to accompany you, so you agreed. But the days ahead will be time separated in two cities. You said you are not afraid. As long as two people truly love each other, they will still be together no matter how far apart they are. You were really happy during that time, even though you were in You don't feel tired traveling between the two cities. You even feel that the place where she is is home and everything.

In this way, you live the life of a long-distance relationship every day, staring at your mobile phone in a daze, laughing and intoxicated. Every night during the video call, it seems like the two of us are one person.

But such days do not last long. People always grow up and their perspective on problems also changes. When you encounter problems, you no longer have such a tacit understanding and begin to have gaps. You think this is normal. , but everything seemed so abnormal later on. You began to dislike each other and attack each other's weaknesses. Finally, you couldn't stand the torture and broke up.

In the next few days, every day will be despair. Losing her is like your sky has lost its color. You can’t find your former self and you can’t see the road ahead clearly. After separation, On the fourth day, you woke up crying in the middle of the night and dialed her phone. You told her that you missed her so much, and she did too. You chatted for a long time and talked a lot about what was in your heart.

You had insomnia that night, and you silently made up your mind to hold on to this dying love even to death. Your mind was filled with imagining the scene when you see her tomorrow, giving her surprises, romance, and love for her. compensate.

In order to make her happy and save your hard-won relationship, you kept rehearsing in your mind for tomorrow. At dawn, you took a taxi to the train station. On the train, you were extremely excited. She is so happy that her image fills your mind. In the cold winter, you don't feel the cold at all.

Finally, a familiar city comes into view. It is so familiar. You passed by the door of the coffee shop countless times during the years you were with her. You came to her school, but when you called her, Turning off the phone, you began to feel disappointed. After some inquiries, you came to the door of her dormitory. The wait was so long, and the call came over and over again and the other party still said that the phone was turned off.

On a cold day, you realized it was cold, but you didn’t care about anything in order to see her. One stop lasted 2 hours. In order to see her earlier, you forgot to eat and drink water on the way here. , you spent your time rushing and waiting stupidly, and finally saw her leaving the dormitory building. You ran forward to prepare for a hug, but she turned around and pulled away. You couldn't hold back the tears anymore. The anger flowed out, you said: "You said you missed me last night...", but she replied something that you will never forget in your life: "I miss you, but we are over, thank you." Come and see me, I’m very touched, but I don’t love you anymore.”

In the end, you had no choice but to wipe your tears and drag your heavy body on the train home again, leaving the city. , on the train you deleted the memory of that city and cut off all contact with her.

I fell in love with this city because of one person. I fell in love not with this city, but because of someone who lived in this city.

2. Once upon a time I was a chivalrous knight who would travel all over the world with my sword for you. Later, I got lost in the bustling city and lost my sword.

The best encounter between you and me was at the most youthful age, from acquaintance to knowing each other, and from knowing each other to falling in love. They are the most understanding souls with each other. Often in the ending of the movie, the people who have the best understanding inevitably become the most familiar "strangers".

I thought that the embarrassing and bloody plot would only be shown in movies, but I never thought that those embarrassing scenes would also appear in reality.

During the period when I was broken up and immersed in sadness, Haozi took me to drink. After three rounds of drinking, we started talking about everything.

We became each other's confidants in an instant. After listening to my story, he kept shaking his head and said to me, "This is nothing to you."

He said that once he attended a friend's wedding, and when they were worshiping, he discovered that the bride was his first love.

For a moment, my expression turned petrified, and then I thought of what he looked like at that time, and I couldn't help but want to laugh. But at least he laughed out loud first.

After taking a sip of wine, he spoke again.

"I didn't think it was her at first because I hadn't seen her for many years, so I thought I just looked a bit similar, but I wasn't sure.

But when she got off the wedding car, For a moment, I was convinced that it was her.

What happened next?

Then she didn’t recognize you. Well?

How could I not recognize her? But what would happen if I recognized her? I haven’t contacted her for three years. Who knew she was getting married? If I had known earlier...

After expressing his passion, he choked up, and there were obvious tears in the corners of his eyes that he wanted to shed but couldn't. I knew that it wasn't that he couldn't forget her, nor that he still loved her, but that he was only regretful about the past and the past. It’s just the relationship between two people, but it’s a pity that when I was most powerless, I met the person I wanted to protect with all my heart.

They were together for a year, during which they laughed and loved each other. There have been fights, quarrels, promises, and vows, but they were all defeated in those innocent years.

What did boys know at that time, when they met a girl who had feelings? I wish I could pick off all the stars in the sky and count them to each other one by one. What did the boy know at that time? He only knew how to give wholeheartedly, wandering in the world of fantasy, wanting to give her hope, but afraid of disappointing her. I want to give her those good things, but I have no choice but to pay for my living expenses. What do boys know at that time? They only believe that if you love someone, you should give her the best of yourself, but ignore whether she needs it or not. < /p>

I also thought that I was a chivalrous person who could do justice in the world, but one day, I lost my sword in the struggle between the world and the world. So I searched and searched desperately, but I couldn’t find the sword. I fainted first. When I woke up, I still went to look for the sword that belonged to me. It wasn’t until I saw so many comrades dead on the battlefield that I suddenly realized that what I had lost was just a sword. I was lucky to still have it. Live.

3. Your love is too heavy and I can’t bear it.

Not long ago, a fan messaged me privately and said, Brother Tian, ??I want to ask you. One question, my boyfriend and I have been together for three months and we haven’t had any quarrels. We were fine when I got on the plane, but when I got off the plane, we were no longer the two of us. He He said he wanted to break up with me, and cruelly blocked everything about me. I want to know if boys are happy after breaking up?

I said why do you think so, if you are not annoying to him? Girls like that will usually be affected to some extent after a breakup. Even if you are a spare tire, you will feel a little uncomfortable.

Then she started to explain, and after a rough understanding, things became clear. It's like this.

Before leaving, we stayed together every day. We cooked together, watched TV shows together, went to the supermarket together, and even accompanied her for a nucleic acid test. We also held her and talked about love after sending her through the security check before boarding the plane. She ended up taking a four-hour flight but didn't receive any message from the boy. She waited for another three hours and still had no message when she got home. So the girl sent a message asking the boy why he didn't reply to her message. , what are you busy with?

Because before, boys never disconnected from girls for more than five minutes, but this time it was strange.

What is even stranger is that the boy said very childish words again, baby, you are here, I am waiting for your reply. Then the girl suddenly became angry and asked him why he was like this. After some questioning, it turned out that the boy was playing games and sent the girl some screenshots of Lianmai. The girl asked the boy if he didn’t even have a minute to reply? Then the boy exploded, saying that he had no freedom when he was with her, that he was restricted and had no space. Then after a few operations, he deleted all the girl's contact information.

After hearing these words, I couldn’t believe at first that this was the relationship between a man and a woman in love? Later, from the girl's narration, I learned that the boy is a very extreme person. He often engages in self-mutilation behavior when encountering unpleasant things, crying, slapping himself, throwing things... The girl who often does this is very scared. But the boy was very nice to the girl. The girl could not believe that the boy would block her and delete her in all his ways. He even looked for reasons within himself. After listening to the narration for a long time, I really couldn’t stand it anymore.

Because the girl has been affected by him and lost her ability to judge, I told her a lot, but in love, people who are lovelorn are often trapped in it and cannot listen to other people's suggestions and opinions, and they keep asking. What should I do, so in desperation, I had to end the conversation, let her calm down, and look through our chat history.

In fact, when encountering this kind of situation, first of all, you should not panic. The boy blocking you may be impulsive, or it may have been planned for a long time. Those are not important, because it has become the result, and there is nothing more to say. Makes no sense.

Stay calm enough, let nature take its course, and wait and see what happens.

A truly suitable love is never afraid of the test of time. What is afraid is whether two people will be separated by time.

Although I can give some personal suggestions, it does not play a decisive role. You must be responsible for yourself. There are not many things you can choose in life, but if you choose, you must be responsible for yourself.

Furthermore, my suggestion does not hope that girls will return to boys.

First of all, I think the boy is not mature enough and stable enough. Extreme people are scary and dangerous. They can harm themselves or slap themselves. It can be seen that this person loses his temper and cannot control his own behavior. So being with him is actually a threat to a girl who faces life challenges at all times. Again , blocking the person you love through a very small thing, not to mention how much it hurts the girl's heart, this is an irresponsible and immature behavior, a boy who doesn't even mean what he says, I I feel that most of the Sea Alliance oaths he promised have not been implemented in practice.

I can’t say whether the boy belongs to the scumbag series, but I can be sure that the boy must have experienced something in his childhood. Either his parents divorced or he grew up in a bad environment, so he developed Such an extreme character.

The word extreme has two sides, but it is really unreliable when it comes to love. Boys may be good in the future, but at least now they are definitely not suitable for girls, because boys who are not mature enough cannot control their personality. To the extreme, they often do things that harm themselves and others. Therefore, for the sake of life, health and the future, such boys must stay away as soon as possible.

Some people may say that boys are scum and will definitely be scum in society in the future. But who can understand the true nature of the matter?

Generally speaking, the love of an extreme boy may be true. He does love the girl and really wants to give her a future, but unfortunately, the price of love is too heavy for the girl to bear.

What he needs may be a few years of tempering, a few years of wind and rain, and often doing things that are powerless and desperate, in order to temper his temper and the extreme character brought by his primitive family. It is indeed bad, but this is not something that everyone can choose from birth. This requires the boy to work hard to change the day after tomorrow. No one can help with this. What he really needs is not someone who can give her the so-called sense of security. , it is oneself who can give oneself a sense of security. How can a person who cannot even take care of himself take care of others? Not to mention the so-called affection and love.

We have all tried our best to love someone, but when the price of love is too heavy and our ability cannot support the weight of love, perhaps giving up is the most appropriate choice.

This society is often very interesting. The two people who love each other most may not be suitable for marriage, and the two most suitable people may not necessarily fall in love with each other. At the age when you are least capable, you often want to keep the person you love the most. When you have gained money and status, you often cannot meet the person you truly love.

4. Before I met you again, I never believed in love. After you appeared, it seemed that the world had light.

In today's society, it is difficult to find a person who suits you. Most of the men and women who get married live together. Very few people can change from school uniforms to wedding dresses, and few lovers can change from the initial ignorance. From the beginning, I stayed with another person until I was old enough to sleep on the pillow.

But I was lucky enough to see what "true love" looks like. The moment they exchanged rings at the wedding, it seemed that everyone saw what love looked like. The atmosphere was unbearable. I shed tears, thinking about my past from their stories, and traveling from the past to the future to the present.

Mr. C and Luo have known each other since they were in the first year of high school. At that time, Mr. C and Luo were at the same table. Because both of them had good academic performance and were both introverted, they were in the same class since the first year of high school. The most common interaction between the two senior students is eye contact. Whenever Mr. C mentions the two of them in high school, their eyes sparkle. He said that sometimes when they accidentally look at each other, their eyes reveal affection. It was full of expectations. Sometimes he deliberately gave lectures to the students behind him, but in fact it was just to get one more look at Luo.

The two people really didn't communicate much at that time, but the way they looked at each other revealed a long-lost sense of familiarity, more like long-lost relatives.

What really brought the two together was their college days.

Mr. C met Luo at a welcome party that day. At first, he couldn't believe that the beautiful girl was Luo. He just thought that the back profile was somewhat similar and she was his type. Later, they were secretly assigned to the same group, and this time they started chatting. Through the conversation, they discovered that she was not like Luo, but it turned out that she was Luo, who Luo had been secretly in love with for three years.

The two were attracted to each other as soon as they met, as if they had saved up all the things they hadn’t said in the three years of high school until college.

In this way, the two of them get along like a couple every day, but no one breaks this layer of paper.

In his junior year, Mr. C made a romantic confession at Luo’s birthday party.

On the day of the party, Mr. C did not show up. He wanted to show up in a special way. It can be seen that Luo was a little disappointed that he did not show up.

After the party, several of Luo's classmates took Luo to watch a movie. At this time, Luo was still in the mood of watching a movie, and had been speculating and worrying about Mr. C's sudden disappearance.

In desperation, several classmates dragged Luo into the theater.

The next plot is just like in those romantic videos.

Halfway through the movie, a person suddenly appeared on the screen. It was Mr. C. He had a cute expression. He couldn't help but smile. In this smile, his white teeth were neatly displayed in a row. In an instant, It is a natural and heartfelt joy to have fascinated all the school girls. Such a boy is really charming.

Mr. C in the video started to speak, Hi, XX Luo, forgive me for missing my appointment and not attending your birthday party today. I would like to say sorry first, but it doesn’t matter. Your birthday is naturally indispensable for me. Blessings, I wish my little cutie will become thinner and more beautiful... Then suddenly another buddy's voice appeared in the video and interrupted when it was time to read the lyrics. For a moment, people in the theater burst into laughter. Mr. C took the He passed a piece of manuscript paper that had already been written and began to read, my dear xx Luo, we... Then he threw the note aside and said to Luo outside the screen, my sea alliance oath to you is engraved. I don’t need any manuscripts in my heart...

We have known each other since high school. At that time, I was always accompanying you as a passerby. Although I liked you deeply, I didn’t have the courage to confess to you. I have always been thinking about how great it would be for a girl like this to take her home as a wife... After a burst of generosity, everyone present was fed a full meal of dog food, and they couldn't bear to say, "Eh?" ~

Mr. C on the screen finally sang a love song. Although the singing was no longer in tune, it made everyone in the theater laugh. In a flash, the entire theater was in darkness. After the darkness stayed for a few minutes, everyone thought it wouldn't be possible. A power outage at this time? Suddenly the lights above my head flickered, as if I was looking for someone in the vast sea of ??people. Finally, all the lights came together. Looking from a distance, I saw that the person was Mr. C in the sea of ??people. When all the lights shone on On his body, the video started again on the screen, and it was still the scene where he was singing a wish to win one's heart.

However, the sound slowly disappeared in the video at this moment. When the sound came out again, it was Mr. C who was surrounded by lights in the crowd. He was holding flowers in his left hand and holding a microphone as he walked towards Luo step by step. Come.

"The person who was in the small compartment of my backpack..."

The clear and beautiful voice makes people intoxicated. It is obvious that the singing voice in the video just now is funny. Yes, after a while Mr. C walked in front of Luo. At this time, Luo's face was stained with tears. The two hugged and kissed. Everyone in the audience shouted "Together, together."

This plot is like a romantic plot in a movie, with flowers, candles, balloons, hugs, kisses and applause, as if Mr. C has been there for the past six years. The appearance at this moment is all in preparation for today's confession, everything is so romantic.

After a vigorous confession, the two finally broke their 6-year relationship.

In the days to come, the two of them are like one person and will stick together every day. They will travel to various cities to take photos, and will also actively participate in various charity activities. After all, they are both so good. Falling in love is so sweet.

This reminded me of a sentence for a moment. Good love often attracts, encourages and improves each other. It is obvious that two people are together, but they live as free and easy-going as one person.

Reminds me of the line in Titanic: Take your surname and take my name. After having you, I am no longer afraid of darkness or hesitation, because with you, my heart is eternal.

Maybe you think that this ending is a happy one and that the story of Mr. C and Luo is over, but of course it is impossible.

People who truly love each other are never afraid of the test of time. Even if they leave temporarily, they will still meet at a certain crossroads in the end.

This is the case for Mr. C and Luo. After graduating from college, they were forced to separate due to work reasons. Just like many couples, they break up after graduation. The two of them are no exception. The same problem occurred between them. gap.

Just like the lyrics written in the song "It's Not That Simple" sung by Huang Xiaohu, "It's not that easy to fall in love, everyone has his own temper." "Happiness is not that easy, so it makes people happy." "Specially obsessed", falling in love is not that easy, and happiness is not that easy either.

Perhaps Mr. C and Luo were too lucky during those years on campus. They planned to get married right after graduation, but due to various harsh conditions, they eventually separated.

After leaving Luo, Mr. C no longer had the brilliance of the past. He was more like a man with a broken arm. He went to get off work and get off work in embarrassment every day, drinking and partying.

Probably because I felt so cool when I left, but how embarrassed I felt when I was alone.

In the two years without Luo, Mr. C also met many different girls, but Mr. C always retained a special place in his heart, which was the only space for Luo.

Later, I learned from my friends that Luo also had a new boyfriend. That night, Mr. C heard the news and a grown man called me crying like this at three o'clock in the morning. So helpless, so embarrassed. In his words, he was never so sad when Luo left.

I comforted him and said, after all, you have been separated for a long time. She can meet someone she thinks is right. If you love her, you should believe in her vision and wish her well, right?

As soon as the words came out, I felt that the words were less like comfort and more like a needle pricking Mr. C’s last thread. Sure enough, Mr. C didn’t speak. The crying was obviously heavier than before, so I accompanied his tears and talk until six o'clock in the morning.

After I cut off the phone, I kept thinking that love is so terrible. A strong and outstanding boy like Mr. C will also have a moment of collapse. Probably when we truly love someone and always believe that she is the future, Suddenly one day the future becomes the light of hope for others, and even the strongest person will collapse.

Unknowingly, I clicked on Luo’s circle of friends and walked in to find that Luo, who left Mr. C, has become much more beautiful in the past two years. From the initial delicate appearance to the current mature temperament, the only thing What made me feel the biggest change was her eyes. Those eyes no longer had the brightness of the past. This reminded me of a sentence, it turns out that the stars in some people's eyes will really disappear.

Later, six months later, Mr. C suddenly sent me a message telling me that he was getting married.

I was confused, but more than anything, I was in disbelief and relief. He finally let go of Luo.

Mr. C sent me a wedding invitation ten days in advance and told me not to be absent from the wedding.

The reason is that he wants to give me a surprise, and he also wants me to be his best man. The dress is ready for me.

After some small talk, I asked for leave.

I flew home on the day of his wedding.

When I arrived at the door of Mr. C’s house, I took a quick look and saw the name on the rainbow door that made me instantly surprised. A row of teeth almost fell to the ground, the bride is XX Luo!

Mr. C saw the incredible expression on my face, and his face became even more proud, as if he was bursting with joy.

Okay, I'm really confused. Seeing the confusion on my face, he got carried away and didn't explain much to me. He just pulled up my sleeve and dragged me home.

On the wedding day, the scene was decorated as a Western-style wedding. I counted about twenty tables, and the wedding design was quite romantic. Okay, I admit, I was envious.

But even if everything is arranged, surprises will inevitably happen.

Or maybe God is jealous of two people who love each other, and deliberately teases them before marriage, so that they can understand how hard it is to have this almost-passing love in this life, and deliberately arranges a misfortune for them. The dragon also adds a "surprise" and blessing to witness their love.

Just when the wedding was about to be held at twelve o'clock, the host picked up the microphone and was about to go on stage. Suddenly the screen on the stage and the surrounding colored lights went out, and there was a power outage!

I had no choice but to wait for a moment. I thought it was just a moment, but later I learned that there was a power outage in the entire county. There was nothing we could do. The wedding could not be held normally without an electric wedding, which made Mr. C very angry.

I was just one step away from marrying Luo, but the unexpected thing happened at the wrong time. In the end, relatives and friends even had a dispute with the hotel, but there was no way the wedding would be held normally.

In this way, we were hungry until three o'clock in the morning and didn't eat until three o'clock. The reason was to eat first and then go to the phone after the meal to hold the wedding.

Just as we were drinking and toasting, the electricity suddenly came on, the air conditioner beeped, and the loving wedding photos of the two appeared on the screen. The beacon of love and the rotating flywheel resumed operation.

Everyone’s hearts trembled when the call came in for the wedding that everyone had been waiting for for four hours. Everyone hopes to witness this unforgettable wedding.

Suddenly there was a burst of applause, whistles, and cheers. The sudden cheers broke up all the silence. If you were not there at this moment, it would be difficult to understand the mood at that time.

Finally, after four hours of delay, the long-awaited wedding was about to begin. The host came on stage. I can’t remember exactly what he said. I only remember that the bride Luo was full of tears at this time. His makeup had melted away from crying, and standing next to him was his father, who also had red eyes. Only Mr. C on the stage could not stop laughing. From his happy look, I could see that he was still the same person I knew before. He looked like a different person in front of Luo. Older child, when I saw this, I thought about the phone call he made to me while crying that night. Hearing him cry was so heartbreaking that for a moment I was so excited that I couldn’t help but shed tears. Damn it. What was unexpected was that Qiu next to me saw him at this moment. He also asked me with red eyes in excitement, God, why are you crying? I said with a stubborn look on my face, I didn't cry, I just had sand in my eyes.

In this way, at their wedding, I listened to two loud "I do"s and witnessed the wedding of Mr. C and Luo. Qiu on the side couldn't help but spit out a few words, Lover We finally get married! I nodded vigorously.

Of course, the five handsome men present could not just eat dog food in the audience, so there was an Easter egg in the on-site recognition session. When Mr. C, the groom, called "Dad", The five of us agreed in unison, "Hey", and then went on stage and stuffed him with red envelopes, leaving him on the stage looking at us with his white teeth in confusion. We also nodded to him proudly, The one time he called me dad, he still smiled and said it. Is that considered a profit?

After returning from the wedding, my heart couldn’t calm down for a long time. I don’t know how Mr. C and Luo got in touch with each other later, and I don’t know whether Mr. C didn’t let Luo go or whether Luo came back to look for him. Mr. C, I just know that they are happy at this moment, and that is enough.

Sometimes it’s really hard to force yourself to love someone. Often we find ourselves back at the starting point after going around in circles at the end. We only look forward to you at that time, at that time. I am still you, still me, without losing my innocence or trust in each other.

There is probably a kind of love. Since I met you, I have become like you, taking your surname and taking my name. From then on, there were two souls living in my body, one was you and the other was me. From then on, your stubbornness existed in my life, and my persistence existed in your life, so we became the most familiar and tacit understanding of each other. people.

I don’t know how much money was in the red envelope that others gave Mr. C, but I made up a number that I have always wanted to bless: 199, for a long time, for a long time!

In addition to 199, there is also a note of blessing:

"It took five hundred times of looking back in my previous life to get a chance encounter in this life.

< p> If you win someone's heart, you will be with her till the end of her life, from school uniforms to wedding dresses. When the promise comes true, even dreams will be sweet.

Live well, cherish her well, and love her well.

Finally, I wish the lovers to get married eventually”