1, "excessive pursuit of perfection" will be alleviated. In fact, many patients with depression are people who have extremely high demands on themselves, high standards and excessive pursuit of perfection.
They think:
Do not allow yourself to fail, do not allow yourself to be bad, and do not allow yourself to make mistakes, so always keep yourself in a state of high tension.
Because you always have to accomplish one high standard and high goal after another, you will eventually push yourself to exhaustion.
You can't have too much mental stress after you get sick, so you will moderately lower your requirements and standards.
When they feel a lot of pressure, and then they are in a bad state or even relapse, they will tell themselves to take their time and let themselves catch their breath.
After their illness, they finally began to face up to the fact that some problems really cannot be solved by themselves.
They also began to clearly distinguish which standards and requirements are too high, and the standards can be lowered appropriately.
2. "Over-responsibility" will be alleviated. Many people with depression are overwhelmed because they have taken on too many responsibilities that they shouldn't have.
In fact, when things get worse, they are the most responsible. They always want to be the first to take responsibility and make the situation change.
They are indifferent to others or procrastinate, and feel anxious and even a little angry, because in their view, the problem should be solved immediately.
Only when others are silent and have no intention to solve the problem, they will rush up and try to solve it by themselves, although the problem may not be within his responsibility.
After illness, memory ability, thinking ability, working ability and state will be greatly reduced.
So this has also changed their role greatly: from a undertaker to a cared-for person.
In fact, when they are sick, it is difficult for them to adapt to this role at first.
You know, they used to be in the front line, but now let them retreat behind the scenes, do nothing and stand by, and their sense of responsibility will move at any time.
If I just want to move, there's nothing I can do, because I really can't help a lot with many things now, so I can only hand over many things to others.
The "stubborn" character will be alleviated. Many people with depression are single-minded, and they think what they are looking for is cognitively right.
Their honest and frank personality is of course easy to succeed in their work, but when they encounter some things, they are also easy to walk into a dead end and push themselves to a desperate situation.
But after getting sick, they will face greater challenges, and many of these challenges come from interpersonal relationships that they are not good at.
In terms of interpersonal relationships, there will always be a wall, and then we will reflect on what went wrong.
This kind of reflection will also let them see that sometimes they really come to a dead end, so they can't see anything.
In short, patients with depression will become more humble, gentler and stronger after rehabilitation, which is the transformation brought about by the disease.
I hope my answer can help you.
Let's talk about myself. I have been depressed for two years, and the past is unbearable. Now I have recovered. It really feels different from before.
Personality: I have changed a lot. Before, I was afraid to speak. I'm afraid to talk behind others' backs. The more people there are, the less I talk. I can endure all kinds of things without hurting others.
Now I love Zaza, and happiness is the most important thing. Whoever wants to say anything doesn't need to explain, and nothing is needed in his heart, just making a world of mortals. Apart from life and death, nothing is important, I won't get angry, and I love my family more. It's good.
Feeling: In the past, it was occasionally stormy and lifeless. Now, when I am unhappy, I listen to music, read books and take a walk, which includes a lot, including myself.
I have improved my ability in all aspects, and I feel that my IQ and EQ are much higher. Especially in emotional intelligence, I have clear thinking and quick response. Sometimes my heart is extremely gentle, sometimes I am moved by kindness, but there is still some negative energy. Help yourself.
Depression will recur. When it recurs, you should solve it quickly. Don't always rely on the doctor. Doctors are not omnipotent. You are the only one who knows how to be better and more comfortable. What the doctor saw was only a superficial phenomenon. Only you know how you feel after taking medicine, and only you know which medicine is more suitable for you, so you have to solve it yourself. This is what I do!
Live like white.
As a recovering patient with severe depression, she experienced extreme depression, sudden mania, crying and shouting, beating and cursing, and all kinds of hallucinations, auditory hallucinations, hallucinations, doubts, murders, fears and other negative emotions.
During his illness, he went through four hospitalizations, twice in a closed ward, and his family could not accompany him, so he could only visit him regularly. There is a TV in the ward and some simple and harmless sports equipment. He can read books allowed by the doctor, but he can't bring any articles for daily use that may cause danger. The hospital distributes it uniformly, and there is a special person to check personal belongings every day, and you can't bring any electronic products.
Severe patients need a nurse, while mild patients are managed by medical staff. Patients can communicate with each other and are under the supervision of medical staff to ensure safety. Communicating with patients is also a kind of psychotherapy. People with similar diseases can talk to each other, comfort each other, feel understanding and warmth, and reduce fear.
In the process of taking medicine and treatment after discharge, there will be side effects of drugs. Different drugs have different side effects and different symptoms.
I went through the painful stage of being greedy and sleepy, lazy and fat, unable to sleep at night, and blaming myself for wanting to sleep during the day. I feel that I am wasting my time, and I hope to come early in the evening to alleviate my guilt. Fall into a vicious circle.
I can't think normally, fear and anxiety, lose my normal life ability, become sloppy, stay in bed without washing or changing clothes, feel numb and stiff, need family care, and want to commit suicide with pain.
I went to see a psychiatrist, adjusted my medication, wanted to save myself, and insisted on going to work. The leading colleagues of the unit understood my situation and gave great support and help. I am very grateful to them!
Slowly, I began to find my hobbies, such as traveling, shopping, beauty salons and bookstores.
Be as good as possible to yourself within your own ability, learn to love yourself, don't care what others think, and start to please yourself and not embarrass yourself!
In the book, I learned to be strong and brave, pay attention to my heart, examine my past, know how to seek from my heart, learn to adapt to the environment, don't want to change anyone, don't want to expect anyone, and be myself.
Don't be impatient, stop pursuing perfection, live in the way you like, learn self-discipline and be positive.
My life now is no longer just work and responsibility.
I like to plant flowers, raise fish, drink tea, read books and listen to music, and occasionally relax myself in a daze. On a whim, I will clean the house as I please. Change your home, adjust your position, and leave some blanks. ...
The biggest sign of depression "recovery" is that you feel that you have gone through a long and dark road and finally saw the sunshine. In terms of personality, you feel that you have a life and your personality has changed.
However, to put it mildly, there is no real cure for depression, and everyone should be prepared for a lifetime, which is the strongest embodiment of our personality.
What I want to say is, what problems should be paid attention to after depression reaches "clinical cure".
If one day your doctor tells you that you have recovered, first of all, I would like to congratulate you on reaching an important milestone on the road to recovery.
But I also want to remind you that we still have a long way to go at this time: on the one hand, how to get rid of the shadow brought by the disease. On the other hand, clinical recovery does not mean that it will never recur.
Therefore, we should attach great importance to mental health even if mental illness can be cured through clinical treatment. We should pay attention to four aspects:
One: prevent recurrence first, ensure adequate and quality sleep.
Second, the diet should be balanced and moderate.
Third, continue to maintain the good habit of self-awareness.
Fourth, take active exercise.
Body and mind are integrated, the body is full of vitality, and there will be positive changes in psychology.
Fifth, if conditions permit, seek the help of a psychotherapist or counselor in time.
Once there are signs of recurrence, you should return to the treatment conditions in time and find the doctor who gave you effective treatment at the beginning.
Second, restore social functions. Restoring social function means finding your original role in study, work and life. It allows us to keep our original functions and even develop our potential that we didn't have before.
At the same time, we should also note that relationship is an important part of our social function.
Finding, repairing or re-establishing a relationship is a very important state of mind and body. It is much wiser to establish psychological alliance with family and friends than to resist psychological risks alone.
Finally, cultivate a hobby and stick to it for a period of time. The purpose of doing this is to enrich your inner self-confidence and not to give yourself too much pressure and unrealistic goals. The real hobby is to make us feel comfortable, not nervous.
Third, de-labeling.
Suffering from mental illness, it is easy for us to label ourselves, such as: I am sick, I am defective, fragile, sensitive, impulsive and so on. ...
All labels are formed on the basis of bad experiences in the past, and such self-definition is actually a kind of restriction to oneself.
This mentality can easily lead to self-judgment, thinking that you just can't do things well, get excited easily, be worse than others, and so on. ...
The process of mental illness may be a painful memory, but after recovery, we will become stronger and more perfect, so getting sick will not be a bad thing.
Fourth, gradually de-medicalization.
Have an objective attitude towards drugs-
Do not reject when treatment is needed, and do not rely on it after clinical recovery.
Some patients regard drugs as their life-saving straw, thinking that as long as they have drugs, they can sit back and relax, and they can take drugs at any time if something goes wrong. This is easy to produce drug dependence.
In the later stage of treatment, emphasizing the perfection of personality, long-term psychotherapy and psychological counseling is the "right way" at this time.
Drugs can't solve the stress in all aspects of life, and can't adjust personal psychological conflicts, so how to find a non-drug way to maintain a peaceful mind for a long time is the focus of future life.
I'm Xu Peng, a psychologist. I wish you all a healthy life.
After the depression is cured, the personality may not change much, but there will still be some sensitivity and caution. The pain of the past will leave some indelible shadows more or less. In later life, if you encounter a sudden blow or stimulus, your illness will easily recur. Even if some people are strong enough, there will be some interference from depression, but it will not be as serious as when they first got sick. After self-adjustment, you may get through this stage soon, but some people will fall into depression again. Many people think that people suffering from depression are hard-headed, introverted and not strong enough. Actually, it's not. People of any personality have been troubled by depression since ancient times. Bean, a famous comedian, and Churchill, the leader of World War II in Britain, are both depressed patients, so the pathogenesis of depression has not been fully understood so far, but one thing is clear, that is, depression is not necessarily related to personality.
Many people have similar views. People think that depression is equivalent to "Du Jie" or "painful experience" for patients. Therefore, it is believed that the personality of patients with depression will change after rehabilitation, and they will become more calm, open-minded and tolerant, and "look down on everything". Is there really such a change? I am a psychologist and a group of people who have the most contact with depression patients. My answer is no, at least most of the patients I have contacted have no such personality changes.
Depression and personality change, so what will depression patients look like after treatment and rehabilitation? Judging from the above treatment purposes, of course, it is mainly to eliminate depressive symptoms and restore social function. Changing personality, or changing the way patients do things, is not within the scope of treatment of depression. In other words, patients with depression who are cured after treatment only completely eliminate the negative effects of depression and return to their original lives, and there will be no personality changes. If we are more positive and optimistic, that is, the personality changes of patients with depression after rehabilitation, it will be too extreme and absolute.
Let's talk about personality again. In fact, personality is a person's personality characteristics, which is what we often say. Of course, the cultivation of personality is a long process. Generally speaking, personality will be relatively fixed before 18 years old. Therefore, it is generally unlikely that there will be a big change in personality after adulthood. Of course, things are not absolute, and there are indeed examples of personality changes in adulthood, but very few. Every personality change is due to the influence of some major events, and depression obviously does not belong to this influence.
To sum up, after receiving treatment, patients with depression will only restore all social functions and return to their original lives, and there will be no major personality changes due to depression. What happened before, what will happen after recovery? Being sick won't change your character.
Everyone regards depression as a psychological problem too much. I think this is not correct. First of all, people with depression should be at least in a sub-health state, and material determines the superstructure. Without good health, their patients must be mentally ill and unable to do anything, thus falling into pessimism and despair. My neighbor (depressed patient) has a person who buys health care products and auxiliary therapeutic devices crazily all day. He buys a lot of rubbish when he comes home, but he will go crazy if he buys it later. Once, his family didn't have that much money, and his wife didn't want to promise. Who knows, he patted his ass in the room and said, what should I do? What should I do? It seems that the sky is falling, and my daughter-in-law is afraid and has to lend him money to buy it. Come and complain to my wife. I don't think he looks sick. He may be extremely unwell, so he expects too much from health care products and therapeutic equipment.
People with depression look indifferent, selfish and pessimistic, which is quite different from the original. I think it's better to look for Chinese medicine to recuperate first. Of course, we should also actively exercise ourselves, get closer to nature, get in touch with people, be in good health and have strong ability, and these will be fundamentally solved. Without good health, depression will not be completely cured.
In fact, even if depression is cured, the damage to people's minds is irreversible. It's like broken glass. You can stick it together, but the cracks are always there. In fact, the change of personality, just right, is a sign of recovery. The biggest cause of depression is "excessive pursuit of perfection". There is nothing wrong with our pursuit of perfection, but we can't "go too far" in everything. Too much is not enough. That's what it means.
And the people closest to us, whether friends or relatives, as long as this person lives a better life and can live a normal life, what we can do is to accept all his changes to the maximum extent. After all, he has experienced something that ordinary people have never experienced, and it is difficult for us to understand the suffering of his soul. As people around him, we should cherish, cherish this person and cherish this fate.
After rehabilitation, most people will become timid, easy-going and sometimes even a little cowardly. This is a tendency, and there is another tendency, which is relatively rare, that is, impulsive or even habitual. At this time, we should pay attention to accepting it as much as possible with an inclusive attitude, but we must build it on a safe basis. After all, many times the definition standard of psychology is based on the empirical judgment of practitioners in actual operation.
It's not easy to live. Tolerance can make you have good interpersonal relationships, empathy can make you reduce quarrels, and an optimistic attitude is the source of strength for you to conquer every node in your life. Cherish it, after all, life is not long.
I don't know if it's ready. Let's talk about myself first, not others. My personality is completely different from before. It seems that I don't care about anything. I don't want anything special. I don't care much about other people's feelings, but I can't get rid of what I used to be paranoid about. But I don't seem to have completely let go of myself, but I will look at myself and comfort myself. I think it might be more comfortable, and my half-life is gone. The remaining half-life will not be thrown in again.
The scars of two years ago can still be seen today, recording how much I collapsed at the beginning.
Depression hasn't changed your character. It just changed your perception and point of view.
Depression is like catching a psychological cold, just like going to the playground and riding a roller coaster. This trip is both thrilling and dangerous. Finally, you returned to your original place. Back to reality.
The world of depressed patients is a fictional world, used to torture themselves. This is an imaginary cage. You shut yourself in.
"Fantasy, wild imagination" imagines the impossible in reality and oppresses oneself in reality.
When you recover from depression, you just go back to the past and your original starting point. You took a roller coaster ride and didn't go back to the original place.
The essence of depression is "there are two opposite values in the brain, in a ball". This fierce conflict makes the brain think, then get confused, then lose sleep and dream.
There is only one kind of values in the brain of people who recover from depression, that is, "balanced values" or "realistic values".