Many people have written that being a woman should be lazy. On the basis of realizing this, I think the word "carelessness" should be added in front. Careless, often used with the words sleepy, lazy and tired, a bit like a cat. It is quiet and docile, and it is easy to get along with most of the time. Unintentionally, it is Shi Xiangyun's "falling flowers everywhere, intoxicated with dreams, and talking about wine lists"; It is Xue Baochai's "Cui Feng Mao Ling inserts a broom fork to sweep the fallen flowers for the immortals". Lazy woman, let time slow down, let the beautiful scene stop, let people forget many complicated and trivial things and hide in a quiet and beautiful fairyland.
I am definitely not the only one who says that women are so feline, but not many women can do this. Because women have been bound by a spell called "diligence" since childhood. "Diligence" is an important criterion to measure a virtuous wife, but being virtuous does not mean that you can live happily. Many hard-working women, conscientious and constantly doing housework, can't get the favor of their husbands and the closeness of their children, and at most they fall into a reputation of "diligence". On the contrary, people who are lazy and coquettish and always pampered by their husbands are more popular. Alice, a famous British psychologist, once said: "Because she was busy with housework, such a woman became disgusting to her husband and children ... tired of her family, she lost the love of her family. If she stays happy and enthusiastic and doesn't ask about housework, they may like her. This is an unfair injury that she must bear. "
What is the root cause of this "distorted" situation? Because hard-working women are passive efforts, they force themselves to be that kind of hard-working people, but their hearts are full of dissatisfaction and resentment. Once they have conflicts with their husbands, all the resentment accumulated in their hearts will erupt in generate. She will suddenly "wake up" and it is not worth paying for herself. If the woman's salary is higher than the man's, then her domineering posture is even higher.
What do men think? Men feel that their responsibility to the family is mainly to "support the family". In their view, working hard to earn money outside is the most important thing, and other housework is secondary. You can do it or not. All they ask is to drink cold beer and watch TV when they get home. Hard-working women ignore men's feelings. They not only walk around the stove like busy robots after work, but also don't let men enjoy a lazy and comfortable time. It's strange that he is not in a hurry with you! Therefore, women don't need to play an omnipotent strong woman at home, and they don't have to finish the dirty work in one breath. You are too tired to turn pale, not only can't get the praise of the smelly man, but he will also dislike you, a yellow-faced woman!
Remember, in men's eyes, not all diligent women are lovely, because sometimes their diligence can't make up for it, and they like to give men an ugly face. If you meet a neat wife, a man should be careful everywhere in his life, be scolded by her everywhere and be educated by her everywhere. This is the most unbearable thing for men. Therefore, in the real marriage life, the wife's diligence and her husband's laziness complement each other. The more diligent the wife is, the greater the possibility of becoming an dissatisfied wife.
Speaking of this, another sister raised an objection: "If you don't wash the dishes, you won't eat anything and wear nothing. I can't stand him throwing smelly socks all over the house and throwing ash everywhere. If he is allowed to cook a bowl of noodles, he will break a bowl. How to live this day! "
Of course I understand that. Trivial housework has a great influence on two people. The traditional thought of China people is "Men dominate the outside and women dominate the inside". The tasks of washing, cooking and cleaning the house at home are all women's, and men only need to be responsible for making money outside. But you have to think about it. Times have changed now. Women also go out to work like men and start making money. The division of labor between husband and wife in the family has changed. You are already a professional woman. Why do you have to do all the housework? There is dust on the table, clothes and dishes are not washed, and the floor is not mopped. This is not your responsibility. You can leave them to the hourly workers and nannies instead of playing the role yourself.
To paraphrase a popular saying: thinking determines fate. If a woman wants to live a comfortable and decent life, she must draw her mind closer to those women who have already lived a comfortable and decent life and see how they control their lives and cultivate their husbands. We call the woman in charge of family affairs "housekeeper". How should we manage this family? Use your brain, not your strength. You have to think about it. It is better to get her husband's dirty eyes by suffering, or to be lazy to please her husband. I think anyone in their right mind is willing to choose the latter.
So, lazy, you say you can't, you can let your husband do it; You say you don't understand, you can let your husband do it; You said you were too tired, so you could let your husband do it. Believe me, men are easy to "cultivate". You induce him a little, and he will go on his way honestly. Let him play the repairman, electrician, pipe dredge, car washer and garbage collector at home, and give him all the hard work. Then you give him a wink, a kiss and say, "Husband, you are great, and your husband has worked hard". It's best to wear sexy black underwear at night, and there is a "material reward". Well, men will.
This is the power of laziness. Such a woman makes men look good. She can be brave in the workplace, but she is as cute as a cat when she comes home. Laziness is not laziness, but a state of mind and wisdom. It is a soft wine, which can be tamed by men after tasting and tastes good. Laziness is not distortion, but randomness, which makes men comfortable and women more comfortable. Lazy women enjoy life alone, giving people around them a sense of relaxation. The curse of "diligence" has almost turned women into "obsessive-compulsive disorder", and they feel guilty as long as they don't do housework. Let's break this spell ourselves. Spend the time washing smelly socks on choosing sexy underwear, spend the time brushing the toilet on making whitening mask, and use the wisdom of quarreling with my husband on studying gourmet recipes. My husband must love you to the bone.