My husband and I got married after graduation. He is two years younger than me, and I found a very good job right after graduation. After he graduated, his job has been very unstable. My friends often advise me that any man I choose is better than my current boyfriend, but I just don't listen.
Maybe I am a woman in love. I feel that I have been out for a long time, so my social experience and salary are more stable than his. I will help him clean his room and cook for him after work, so I will try my best to help him in life. But because of this, he doesn't have much planning for his career. He just wants to play games every day. I wanted to say something about him, but I didn't say why he was younger than me. But later, whenever I want to give up this relationship with him, he will look at me piteously and promise to work hard and give me a good future. I have never seen his firm eyes and his weak eyes. I am particularly soft-hearted and have changed my mind.
My marriage is also particularly unremarkable, because after I got pregnant, we held a wedding under the arrangement of my parents. I thought I would be happier after I got married, but all I left was the triviality and problems of daily necessities.
After we got married, we bought a house, but all the money was given to us at home, because my husband's family conditions were relatively average and there was no money. My parents love me very much and don't want me to rent a house. They gave me money and paid a down payment. I thought that after we got married, my husband would become more mature and steady, but he is still the child who didn't grow up, and he still plays games all day, and his monthly salary is just enough for his expenses. However, I always give him various reasons to help him share the pressure. I have never complained in these years, and I always hope that he can grow up quickly. However, my contribution is always just my personal opinion, but they don't know how to cherish me, but they regard me as a reason to oppress them.
In fact, my parents also understand my state. She was afraid that it would be difficult for me to find a job after I had children, so she got me a shop to do business. Later, I thought about it. My friend and I opened a clothing store, and the business was not bad. I made money, of course they know. So every time they go out to play, travel or buy things, they will ask me for money. As for me, I feel that as long as they are happy, I am satisfied, and I don't know how to refuse them. After all, everything is going well at home, and I don't want these things to cause contradictions at home and affect my feelings.
But once my mother-in-law got cancer and needed an operation, at least 300 thousand, but the success rate of the operation was uncertain. My husband was particularly devastated and said to the doctor, "No matter how much it costs, my mother must be cured. Without my mother, I really don't know how to live in the future. " I am not surprised by his reaction, because he is so dependent on his mother that he can be said to be a "mother-in-law". Finally, for my mother-in-law's operation, I took out my 50 thousand to continue, but my husband said to me, "What's the use of giving this money?" What time is it now? The doctor said at least 300 thousand. You make so much money every month as a clothing store. Can I only get 50 thousand? "
I also know that he is in a hurry. Later, I told him, "My clothing store can really make some money, but I have to pay off my mortgage every month and pay my daily expenses, so I don't save much money every month." You have a job, and I usually pay for it. You should have a lot of savings. However, after listening to my words, he said to me hesitantly, "How can I be rich? You are not ignorant of my monthly salary. I borrowed everything I needed and almost paid back the money. "Why don't you ask your parents for it? Your parents should always have it. If not, sell the house at home and go to see my mother first. "
I was shocked at his words. I didn't expect him to let me sell my parents' house. I have no reason to let them sell it. He is obviously unreasonable. He also told me that I am his wife and I am their family. Now my mother is seriously ill and must be treated, so it is natural to sell a house to save her.
At this moment, I finally know, once people have no bottom line, how terrible it will be and what they can do. I really regret marrying him impulsively. This idea is really stupid. I thought he was young before, and when he grew up, he would know more and be more mature and steady. I didn't realize until this moment that I gave in again and again, but I couldn't make him mature or influence him. This will only make him push his luck and make him feel that it is natural to help him.
Finally, I gave him 50,000 savings to treat my mother-in-law, but later I divorced him. Because of such a thing, I can't stand it and give in again and again. I'm completely dead. I have no attachment to his family.