? Zhao is an enterprising woman. After the teahouse closed, she was still working overtime to settle accounts. In late spring and early summer, the sky is clear and the moon is bright, and the evening breeze is harmonious. Tired of working at her desk, she came to the yard to have a rest. Looking at the night, she felt carefree and danced alone in the pavilion.

? Dancing in music is to make others happy; Now dancing is for your own happiness. Dancing for yourself is naturally unrestrained and light and free. Gu beside dry rice, staring. It's been some time since they last quarreled. Gu often goes to the teahouse to sneak a peek and doesn't let her know. He and Pan Er have different personalities. Pan Er is impatient and makes decisions quickly. Gu is deep and thoughtful. So he didn't dare to come to her until he thought about their future. But once a decision is made, he will try his best to carry it out.

? When they met again, their emotions were mixed. Since the last time Pan Er drew a line with him, he wanted to get close but dared not, so he had to stand far away. This time, he finally spoke his mind and made it clear that he wanted to get married. As he explained himself, in love, he is really slow and can't speak sweet words. Therefore, he doesn't understand the girl's mind, has no routines and skills of love, and everything he says is from the heart. Sincerity is a valuable quality, although sometimes his clumsiness will kill people's popularity, but when the true feelings are revealed, it can move people's hearts more. Pan Er couldn't believe his confession at first, but then he choked with excitement. Obviously, the two men are already in turmoil inside, but they try to stay calm on the outside. It was not until she took the pomegranate flower, which symbolizes the meaning of love, that Gu Cai picked her up and walked around. The two embraced carefully, affectionate and restrained.

? This is a very classic expression of China's love. What is love? American psychologist Robert Jeffrey Sternberg put forward triangular theory of love. He believes that love consists of three basic components: passion, intimacy and commitment. Passion is the desire component in love, which comes from physical impulse and emotional infatuation; Intimacy is a kind of psychological closeness and warm feeling, including appreciation of lover, desire to take care of lover, mutual honesty and openness to inner secrets; Commitment is the expectation and planning of love, and it is the most rational part of love. Passion is warm, intimacy is warm, and commitment is calm. These three components are superimposed on each other, forming seven types of love patterns.

? In China's traditional love structure, commitment is the most and passion is the least. Due to the moral culture of self-denial, China people tend to suppress their desires, limit their id impulses within the framework of ethics, and replace the passionate expression of "I love you" with marriage commitment. Therefore, despite their deep feelings, they will never do anything outside the ceremony, including the future. Passion will dissipate as quickly as floating clouds, but commitment is a lifelong companion, which is precisely the reason why classical love is implicit and deep.