So, what should you do? The first step is to make a comprehensive analysis of yourself and make a comprehensive list of the conditions that can affect you. Everyone's situation is different, but there are some conditions that need to be listed, that is, your personality, strengths, weaknesses, what you like, what you are good at, what you want to do most, what is your life goal, your current level, and the direction of your efforts. If you think other things are necessary, list them together, be sure to be detailed and have consequences, and be sure to write down why you think so in connection with reality, instead of imagining it by feeling, which will exaggerate or shrink your strength.
If you find that you can't list anything, or only a few short sentences, then you don't even have a foundation to get out of trouble, you don't even know yourself, or there is nothing in your mind at all. Only by completing the first step can you go on, otherwise you will either go astray or continue to mess around. Then all you have to do is pay attention to your feelings, constantly analyze yourself, read more books, think more, and record it every day until the above steps are completed. This process can be long or short. According to my own understanding, some people spend days and months, while others never understand.
Next, with an understanding of yourself, you can change yourself, adjust your personality and shortcomings, develop your strengths, do what you are good at or like, and even re-plan your life goals. This is the goal of all aspects. Determine the direction of your efforts according to your current level and plan out the general steps to complete each goal. For example, you can take the postgraduate entrance examination for civil servants and distinguish the relationship between primary and secondary goals, such as career, living conditions and family. This is a dynamic process, and you will constantly make changes and new plans. In this process, constant struggle is essential, so find your own beliefs and motivation.
After you embark on a trip out of the pit, the most important thing is to use your brains to accumulate experience in your field. At this time, you should not only continue to analyze yourself as before, but also continue to analyze yourself at work to form a normal state of mind, such as the influence of your personality on your work field, the reason for your gap with others, thinking and hard work. It is difficult to climb up from the pit, but it will take some time to fall.
It takes some time to complete the above steps, mainly to make the state normal, so that you can adapt to the rhythm of society and integrate into society like everyone else. The most important thing is to change your mentality. You don't have the previous down-and-out mentality, and you won't worry about your situation. You know what you should do, work like others, or even do better, so you won't easily go back to the pit and complete this psychological change. You have climbed out of the pit. When no one kicks you, or when the wind and waves blow you, you usually don't go back to the pit.
Well, congratulations, if you have completed the above steps, you can already be a good ordinary person proudly, so there is no problem in your life and you still have great potential to go on. If you want to be a successful person, you must go further.
Life is a process of constant struggle. When people reach a certain level, they will be in a stable state. At other times, they are making progress or going backwards to another level. Many people have a normal state of effort because of themselves and the relationship between education and the environment. You need to cultivate. You'd better have someone pull you when climbing the pit to prevent others or other factors from dragging you down.
This is a difficult process, only for those who have firm beliefs.