1, generous and stingy
I always thought I was a generous person. Because I like to give clothes, toys, ornaments and other things I don't like to others.
I think people who receive my little gift will like me and thank me. However, my father doesn't think so. In his view, this is ostensibly generous, but in fact it is stingy. I don't think so.
One day, my father took me to visit his boss. When he left, his boss gave us a box of apples.
When I got home, my father and I opened the box and found some crumpled apples inside, which were bigger than goose eggs. I couldn't help shouting, "What stupid thing is not as good as ours! No one wants to throw it! "
My father pointed to the apples on the ground and said, "These apples tell us at least two things: First, they were given by others. If they were bought by themselves, they would not have been kept for so long. Second, this is something they can't eat, and it's a pity to throw it away, so they will give it to us by the way. " Without looking at those apples, I snorted: "Hum, what a broken thing!" " "
"Yes, what the hell! You should always remember this sentence. This is what you get by giving away things you don't like and don't need! " My face turns red when I brush it. I remember the second-hand clothes, toys and ornaments I gave to others before. When they went home and opened it, they must have said the same thing.
My father looked at me and said, "Remember, don't treat others as fools. He will know the value of this thing as well as you. Either don't send it, or give it to others that you think is the best, favorite and most reluctant. "
2. Beauty and ugliness
There is an old man who is a famous writer in China. Before he died, he suddenly felt very uncomfortable. The secretary said, "I'll call the doctor." Unexpectedly, just as the secretary was about to open the door, she heard the old man finally say, "It's not' call', it's' please' …" Then the old man fell into a coma and never woke up. ...
Doctors and nurses burst into tears when they heard all this.
A word "please", the warmest and brightest word in the world, is so difficult but very natural to say from a respected old population-it is a beautiful heart!
The old man didn't say anything, this sentence is his last words-these last words are pure and heavy, and in a sense even exceed the movie scripts and articles written by the old man. Because no one will doubt that this sentence, which best reflects the beautiful heart of the old man, is really interpreted by the old man with his life.
This old man is Xia Yan. Knowing this, I understand a truth: humility is a profound education, rooted in the soul, fragrant and flowerless. Then I remembered a character in Balzac's works-Old Grandet. Old Grandet is dying, but he can't give up his wealth. He struggled desperately to see his gold again. When the priest put the gilded cross to his mouth and asked him to kiss it to send his soul to heaven, his eyes miraculously lit up. He tried to make a gesture of "grasping the cross", so this "last effort completely ruined his life".
That's great. Balzac actually used such a vivid detail to create the image of a number one miser.
Xia Yan left, and so did Grandet. However, their performance at the last moment of life has such a big contrast, one is beautiful and the other is absolutely ugly!
Step 3 borrow the wisdom of eggs
People who work in the office every day are like staying in a small circle. Close contact has brought them closer together. It is not easy for newcomers to step into this circle, and they often feel a sense of loneliness.
After graduating from college, my friend Shanshan has changed jobs three times. Although she stayed in one place for a short time at a time, she became good friends with her colleagues, which made people reluctant to leave. I envied her so much that I asked her what the secret was.
Shanshan told me a short story with great philosophical significance: a foreign housewife saw that she had moved to a new house across the hall. When she was cooking dinner, she went to borrow eggs to bake a cake. After the cake was baked, she gave another piece to others to taste. After a while, she became familiar with the housewife of that family. In fact, there are many eggs in her refrigerator. She just borrowed eggs to create contact opportunities for her family and lay the foundation for good neighborhood relations in the future. Shanshan said that the relationship between office colleagues also needs to be "managed" with a little thought. Just arrived in a new working environment, only by finding opportunities to increase contact with colleagues around you and get familiar with them as soon as possible can we adapt to the new job quickly. In addition to the contact at work, Shanshan also has her special "small means". For example, during lunch break, I bought a bag of beautiful candy from the supermarket and distributed it to every colleague when I got back to the office. Some people will at least give a smile in return even if they don't like candy. Within a month, Shanshan became "one piece" with her colleagues, and everyone affectionately called her "Little Rabbit".
But there is a premise that you must communicate sincerely with your colleagues. If it is only for utilitarian purposes, it will not help, but will be annoying.
4. Go on the road with goodwill
A trafficker kidnapped a 5-year-old boy. The boy doesn't cry like other children. He kept calling uncle trafficker, took out a candy from his pocket and said, "Uncle, I like this candy best. Does your child like candy, too? Uncle, you are so sweet. " At this time, Yu Cai, the trafficker, remembered that he also had a home and a 5-year-old daughter. Her daughter likes candy, too. Every time she eats candy, she will give him one in her mouth and gently ask, "Dad, is it sweet?" Traffickers realize that life has its sweet side in the most difficult times. The little boy's words aroused the conscience of the trafficker, which has not been completely extinguished, and also aroused his cherish for the human family. He decided to turn himself in. After solving the case, all the criminals except him were sentenced to death, and only he was sentenced to 15 years. It can be said that the kindness left in his heart saved him, because if he didn't return the child and surrender himself at that time, he would eventually be caught and sentenced to death sooner or later.
There is also a short story with philosophical significance, which I experienced personally. After graduating from high school, I became a construction worker because I didn't go to college. One day, I was standing under the scaffold with a worker, and suddenly there was a scream around me. I found a shadow coming from where the worker stood. I didn't think much, so I rushed to the craftsman around me and pushed him away. Just then, there was a loud noise behind me. I looked back and saw a heavy concrete slab fall where I stood just now. I'm glad I saved myself by saving others. At that moment, I stood in the warm sunshine, blowing the warm spring breeze. Overhead are blue sky and white clouds, and nearby are the blessed faces of workers. I have never felt so strongly that life is so precious and beautiful because of kindness.
In the journey of life, please walk with kindness, because kindness is the patron saint of your life, and it will bring you luck, friendship and the most beautiful blessings in the world.
5. The strength of commitment
One day, the child and his father were guests at a friend's house. After the guests were seated, the host made tea for them, put the thermos bottle on the table, and left the living room to the back room as if remembering something. When the father and son were enjoying the beautiful scenery outside the window, they suddenly heard a huge explosion. When they looked back, it turned out that the thermos bottle fell to the ground and broke.
When the host heard the sound, he hurried out of the back room and said, "Never mind, never mind." His father paused a little and said it was accidentally knocked over. Later, the father and son bid farewell to their master. On the way home, the son asked his father, "You didn't touch it. Why do you want to admit your mistake? " Father smiled: "in life, sometimes you need the courage to take responsibility, not to defend yourself." People are more willing to tolerate a person who admits mistakes, and it is useless to argue. "
There is a short story with great philosophical significance. When the young monk learned about it, the Zen master told them that his beads were lost, and the person who wanted to steal them admitted it himself. No one admitted it for a long time, and finally the Zen master let them go down the mountain. At this moment, a blind monk stopped. Everyone breathed a sigh of relief. He was a pearl thief. The Zen master asked, "Did you steal the beads?" The monk replied, "No, I just hope this matter can be solved. You don't have to doubt your brothers. " The Zen master smiled. He took the beads out of his arms and praised, "Although you are blind, you are a real Buddhist!" "
Whether in the workplace or at home, the courage to take responsibility will definitely make people trust you more and support you more. Because only people with a sense of responsibility can become people who support the world.
6. A real businessman
A man passed by a busy railway station and saw a man with a disabled leg set up a pencil stand. He accidentally left 100 yuan as charity. But not long after he left, the man came back. He said apologetically to the disabled, "I'm sorry, you are a businessman, but I actually took you as a beggar." After a while, he passed the railway station again, and the owner of a shop called him at the door with a smile. "I have been looking forward to your appearance," said the disabled person. "You are the first person to treat me as a businessman. You see, I am a real businessman now. "
7. dreams
A man had a dream in which he came to a two-story house. When I entered the first floor, I found a long big table. There are people sitting at the table, and the table is full of rich food, but no one can eat it. Because everyone's arms were cursed by the magician, they all straightened, their elbows couldn't bend, and the food on the table couldn't be held. Everyone was very sad. But he heard the laughter upstairs, and he went upstairs curiously. There are still a group of people who can't bend their elbows, but everyone has a good time. It turns out that although everyone's arms can't be straight, everyone is happy to eat because the people on the other side help each other and feed each other.
8. Shout for the mountain
A child ran to the mountain and inadvertently shouted to the valley: "Hello …" As soon as the voice fell, echoes of "Hello …" came from all directions. Dashan agreed. The child was surprised and shouted, "Who are you?" Dashan also replied, "Who are you?" The child shouted, "Why didn't you tell me?" Dashan also said, "Why didn't you tell me?"
The child couldn't help getting angry and shouted, "I hate you." He didn't know that the shout was incredible. The voice from all over the world is: "I hate you, I hate you ..."
The child ran home crying and told his mother. The mother said to the child, "son, go back to the mountain and shout,' I love you, try and see what the result will be, ok?" " "
The child ran to the mountain again. Sure enough, this time the child was surrounded by the echo of "I-love-you, I-love-you …".
The children laughed, and so did the mountains.
The boy shook his head puzzled.
9. Be your own master
When the calf saw the cow sweating under the whip of the farmer, it felt very sad. He asked: "Mom, the world is so big, why should we suffer here!" " "
The cow replied with sweat, "son, we can't help it." Now that we have eaten other people's food, we can't help it. This has been the case for generations! "
Habit is your master from the beginning. If you are enslaved by it for a long time, you will be "involuntarily" and become its slave. On the contrary, if the habit is enslaved by you, you become the master of the habit. If you have good habits, you will have a happy and beautiful life.
10, be careful of scorpions around you.
One day, a frog was sitting by the river. A scorpion passed by and said to him, "Mr. Frog, I want to cross the river, but I can't swim." Can you be merciful and let me sit on your back and take me across the river? "
The frog said, "But you are a scorpion. Scorpions like to sting frogs best. "
The scorpion said, "Why should I sting you? My purpose is to go to the other side of the river. "
"All right!" The frog said, "As long as you don't sting me, I will accompany you across the river."
However, as soon as they reached the middle of the river, the scorpion involuntarily gave the frog a hard thorn. The frog struggled painfully and asked, "why did you stab me?" Now, neither of us can live. "
Scorpion said, "I can't help it, because I am a scorpion, and scorpions just like to sting frogs." I really can't control myself. "