Everyone has mixed feelings about the psychology of class reunion. People maintain a very complicated psychological state towards class reunion. I long for friendship and water, but I can't get spring breeze; I want to open my heart and shut my mouth. Worldly and balanced, people are both entangled and distressed.
Give a simple example: a class reunion, many people really want to go the first time, but they don't want to go again the second time. Are you going or not? If you don't go, you are afraid that others will say that you are "unsociable"; Go ahead, it's boring. Instead of all kinds of entanglements, it is better to adhere to the principle of "three go and three don't go", know yourself and yourself, liberate yourself and treat yourself as a human being. A thousand dollars can't buy your psychological comfort.
Why do many students rush to the first party and don't want to go the second time? After graduation, students from all walks of life, all walks of life, are busy with their own lives, less and less contact, more and more blurred faces. How do your classmates get along? Students still want to know each other. Generally speaking, at the node of five or ten years, there will always be students who have mixed well together. The first party was fresh and exciting at first, hugging each other and screaming loudly, but after three rounds of drinking, students from all walks of life took turns to show off, and the second half was often a bit stale. Students at the same starting line have been seriously divided. Birds of a feather flock together, and every student is quietly looking for a position and a group. The freshness before the party is often washed away by the sense of distance and imbalance after comparison. Many people are reluctant to attend the second large-scale and show-like party.
After graduation, the students go their separate ways. Those who have a good relationship may still contact each other, while those who don't interact frequently may forget the rivers and lakes. Five years and ten years later, there are always some classmates who haven't contacted each other for 800 years. On the grounds that there is nothing they can do, they will get together and do whatever it takes. They will say, "it's my treat. I'll do everything." Just use your mouth. " If you can't attend such a party, you can't go 80% of the students did not mix well and developed in society. The purpose of setting up the venue is not to really catch up and talk about friendship, but to stand tall and show off. There is still 20%, which may be a bleeding book. Let classmates help him with his "on-site homework". If all the students he invited are valuable, he should resolutely decline, so why attend the "Hongmen Banquet"?
The reunion of classmates is organized by several organizers in AA system, where we discuss to find a hotel with convenient transportation, moderate conditions and appropriate standards, and take care of the actual situation of all students. This is a thoughtful organization and caring service. But some organizers are either out of their minds or "why not eat minced meat". The party is arranged in a five-star resort, and the standard is two or three thousand yuan per capita. This is a show for rich children, but it closes the door for ordinary students. AA pays the standard and round-trip fare, plus the loss of leave, several thousand yuan. Spend thousands of dollars to watch successful people show off their wealth? Whether you have money or not, you don't want to go to any party that is beyond ordinary people's ability. The starting point is not grounded, can everyone find the feeling of equal gathering?
After attending the first large-scale party, many students are reluctant to attend the second one. After the first party, the students got to know each other and took away the address book. Have you found that the address book is in hand and the WeChat group has been established, but not many people are interested in contacting again. In fact, after graduation, everyone is like a planet. In the vast universe, they all found their own galaxies and operated in their own systems. At the first party, everyone was looking for their own position, circle and classmates. There are fewer and fewer big parties and more and more small parties. Several good friends often get together, drink a little wine, talk about Xiaotian, deepen friendship and bring happiness to each other. Get together with old friends. Try to attend if you can. Regardless of success or failure, everyone needs the nourishment of friendship.
During the large-scale celebration of the school, the Political and Educational Affairs Office will arrange some students to organize a party back to their alma mater. This kind of party arrangement is simple and simple. The school provides meeting places and arranges transportation in a unified way. Everyone only wears uniform printed T-shirts and tries to treat each other as equals. Students who have the opportunity and conditions should attend such parties as much as possible. Congratulations on the development and progress of your alma mater and see the growth and changes of your alma mater; Visit the white-haired teacher and meet his former classmates and friends; Turn around in the campus dormitory and relive your youth. Schools don't expect students to return anything, but try to participate as much as possible. Students who mix well and those who don't, the school welcomes every student with an open mind.
Last year, the head teacher was seriously ill. Before he died, he proposed to meet the graduating class in the most glorious period of his teaching career, and entrusted the old monitor to arrange it. Many students flew thousands of miles to arrive in time and had the last reunion dinner with the teacher. In high school, some teachers are lifelong teachers and fathers, and some teachers and classmates have no deep feelings, but the teachers' kindness is like a sea and a mountain. On holidays, foreign students always pay a New Year call to their teachers when they go home. As students get older and teachers get older, many teachers have poor living conditions. If the teacher wants to see his classmates, he should entrust his classmates to arrange a small-scale party, especially to discuss how to help the teacher's party. Conditional students try to take time to participate, give some money to those who have money, and run a private field without money. The teacher doesn't want to get anything from the students, so it is difficult for the teacher to help as much as possible.
"The more classmates get together, the worse", which has almost become the voice of most people. Especially the older people, the deeper they feel.
We believe that the original intention of reunion is good, in order to catch up with the past, to connect feelings, to exchange memories of youth and to experience the feeling of youth again. But when everything goes wrong, it's especially true for class reunions.
To tell the truth, people who are particularly keen on class reunion are usually people who have achieved a certain status in society. "Returning home with clothes on" is the direction of most people's efforts, and it is the primitive human nature eager to experience the feeling of superiority.
Therefore, some people say that class reunion is a mirror of human nature and reflects many social realities.
Talk about a good husband if you have a good husband; If you have a good job, tell me about it. There is nothing embarrassing and polite, listening to others say that her husband's work. So slowly, many people stopped attending the reunion, and finally they were all first-class people who liked to show off.
So if you go to the party of several classmates, you will find how much sadness and helplessness this sentence reveals. The human heart is changing, the personality is changing, and the topic of * * * has long since disappeared. Finally, I only left a sigh. Alas, some people can't remember. It's better to miss each other than to meet.
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I have had several classmates since I was a child. I have attended two homecoming meetings and will not attend them again. It is found that there are two kinds of people who are keen on organizing and participating: one is the activists and class cadres in the class at that time, and the people who get along well with each other under the favor of teachers after graduation; Belong to a class of people with general family conditions and general inferiority. After graduation, he either married a rich husband or became a prominent official. The former class will borrow classmates to recall the past scenery, and the latter class will take the opportunity to bask in today's wealth or success and look down on their teachers and classmates!
People with many thoughts and complicated thoughts are not good at attending class reunion. Live your own life behind closed doors and lead a totally clean life. I haven't seen my classmates for many years. How simple it is to get together You always look at others in a dark way, but you are tall and handsome. Those who get together voluntarily don't take part in the pull-down, and no one forces you. Please don't wait for others' reply. Only by respecting others can we respect ourselves. How simple it is!
In fact, speaking of this issue, with the growth of age in the past two years, there have been more and more class reunions. First, we had a party in a small place, then we went to a party in the province, and finally we went to the place where other students settled, playing together and having a party together. Many people will definitely ask, is reunion that good? Why do classmates who haven't been in touch for a long time get together?
In fact, if it is a simple party, why do you want to travel across provinces? Now class reunion is more reflected in three aspects.
The first thing that comes to mind about the way to expand contacts through class reunion is the story about China Chamber of Commerce. At present, there are Zhejiang Chamber of Commerce, Wenzhou Chamber of Commerce, Guangdong Merchants and Shanxi Merchants in China. The original intention of these chambers of commerce is only to rally against foreign oppression and have enough strength to do more business. When they hold a group, they choose their own compatriots. Why? Because fellow villagers can better understand and trust each other, this is also the reason why the chambers of commerce in these areas in China have finally grown.
Now MBA class is very famous. After studying, a special WeChat group will be established, which is full of students who have studied MBA in different fields, but they are all elites, so there will be more private dinners and more contacts.
In this society, what resources are the most important, of course, is the network.
Now this society basically pursues money first, but when people look at their address books in the dead of night, they suddenly have a strange feeling. They want to drink, but they don't know who to call. This is the loneliness of modern people!
Many people say that men are under great pressure now, and the greatest freedom is to light a cigarette when parking at home and sit still for four or five minutes, alone and lonely. So many people miss their feelings at school, how innocent they are. So many people try to contact their former friends, get together, pick up a glass of wine, drink to the past, drink to the future, drink to the reunion now, drink one after another. Finally, in this street with red light and green wine, in the expectation of the next meeting, everyone can put down their inner guard and loneliness, drink and laugh.
The last point, as everyone may know, is also disgusting. At every party, people will show off their present wealth more or less, where they work now, what rank they are now, how much they earn, how many houses they have at home, how many extra-long classes their children are attending, and so on. By constantly showing off, they can get praise from other students and show their position through strong contrast.
Especially those students who usually don't study well, get along well now, and then they are ridiculed by teachers and classmates for not studying well in those years, and now they get along well, even surpassing most excellent students, thus gaining pleasure, which is also the biggest reason why some people attend the party.
Finally, make a conclusion: everyone living in this society is not a single individual, we are all social creatures, so we need to communicate with others more. Although there are some annoying people at the class reunion, I believe all those who are willing to attend are pursuing that wonderful memory. Some feelings are like wine, the older they get, the better they get.
I don't know when my death will come, but my heart withered when I left.
I will go back to the future, I will remember my youth and laugh for the rest of my life.
There is no trace of time. When people are old, it is hard to lose time.
If you dream of a floating life, study hard, and the world of mortals is not exhausted.
In general, it is better to attend class reunion. In particular, our students from Grade Three will attend! In ancient times, everyone and classmates had been in the branch school for more than fifty years. Let's get together and make money for a while.