10 years ago, the quiet life was broken.
Liu Xiulian is 57 years old and lives in Building 9 of Ziyun Community 10 Committee. Husband Jing Yingbin is two years older than Liu Xiulian. Both of them worked in Mudanjiang VC pharmaceutical factory before retirement. Daughter Jing is smart and sensible since she was a child. Unlike some young people nowadays, Liu Xiulian basically lives with her mother-in-law after marriage. Although her mother-in-law is a bit nagging and sometimes has a bad temper, these are nothing to Liu Xiulian. She feels that her life is very happy.
But just 10 years ago, because her mother-in-law was suddenly diagnosed with a cerebral infarction, her life changed dramatically. After her husband was laid off in 2000, she only worked odd jobs to support her family. My mother-in-law has been in hospital for nearly a month, which is undoubtedly worse for this family. In the half year after leaving the hospital and returning home, the mother-in-law who used to love talking gradually lost her former happiness, became less and less talkative, and her temper became worse and worse, resulting in renal failure, language disorder and consciousness disorder. She and her husband felt unspeakable sadness in their hearts, although the old man and a neighbor praised the old man for being blessed, saying that such a daughter-in-law was closer than her daughter and took care of the old man too well.
Why do you take good care of her? She secretly "studied art"
In order to make her mother-in-law recover and be happy as soon as possible, and to prevent her husband from getting angry in a hurry, Liu Xiulian decided to stay at home and take care of her mother-in-law full-time. This care is ten years. As the saying goes, "there is no dutiful son before a long bed", but during these ten years, Liu Xiulian took care of the daily life and diet of the elderly without regrets. To tell the truth, it's hard to take care of the seriously ill elderly. Even husbands are often in a bad mood and cry because they take care of the elderly. But Liu Xiulian hasn't had a fight with the old man for so many years, or even talked loudly with the old man. Not only that, but she often comforts her husband and says, "No one will get old one day. Let's be filial to our mother, set an example for our girls and pray for our children ..." Speaking of nursing, Liu Xiulian had little experience when she first took care of her mother-in-law. Mother-in-law often can't take care of herself because of illness, so she needs to carry a catheter bag all the year round and pour it every two hours. But every time I change the catheterization bag, I have to find a nurse, and it costs 50 yuan. In order to save some money and take good care of her mother-in-law, Liu Xiulian secretly learned from nurses and then went to the medical equipment store to buy it herself. Such a urethral catheterization bag, 20 yuan, can save 30 yuan.
Slowly, Liu Xiulian learned a lot of nursing knowledge. In order to keep the elderly clean and hygienic, Liu Xiulian insists on scrubbing her mother-in-law every day, often washing her hair, cutting her nails, giving her more massage and exercising her limbs. Under her careful care, the old man never had bedsores again, and his home was clean and odorless.
Another mutation, she was not defeated.
The Liu Xiulian family, whose life was already very difficult, suffered another mutation in 2006, and her husband was diagnosed with cerebral infarction, diabetes and high blood pressure. But in July of that year, my daughter was admitted to Shanxi University, and these sudden things suddenly came to Liu Xiulian. She really feels like she's falling apart. Although some friends around her advised her that such a family would drag her down, Liu Xiulian also wavered, but thinking of her daughter who never let herself worry and her mother-in-law who was paralyzed in bed and couldn't take care of herself, Liu Xiulian dismissed the idea again. I don't know where she came from, which makes her stronger. Of course, it is also inseparable from the help of the community and neighbors.
At that time, the community learned about her family's situation and immediately gave the elderly a minimum living allowance. Although there is not much money, their family has improved a lot. In addition, community cadres come to visit and comfort the elderly on holidays, and organize some activities such as choosing a good wife and mother, so that Liu Xiulian can talk to people around her about filial piety and experience in caring for the elderly, which also makes Liu Xiulian know herself again. Now, Liu Xiulian is a well-known good daughter-in-law and nursing expert.
In order to make her mother-in-law eat more comfortably, Liu Xiulian made great efforts in cooking. In the past ten years, through studying and consulting others and online, she has compiled a set of scientific and reasonable recipes, and every meal in a week is different. Neighbors all praised the old man for being blessed, saying that such a daughter-in-law is closer than a prostitute and takes care of the old man too well. But Liu Xiulian always said with a smile that her mother-in-law is also her closest relative and should take good care of her mother-in-law.
The happy event has come, and her life is really happy.
Sometimes, for an optimistic person, the difficulties seem insignificant. With her daughter's wedding, Liu Xiulian felt that life was more exciting. Speaking of her daughter, Liu Xiulian's face was immediately filled with smiles. Over the years, Liu Xiulian's daughter has been very worried. During her college years, she worked as a tutor, worked part-time on vacation, didn't give her family a penny for living expenses, and often bought things for her family. "Although my family is not rich, our family is very harmonious and my daughter is very sensible. I am very happy to have such a warm family." Plain language shows her simple love.
At the end of last year, her mother-in-law died, and Liu Xiulian's burden has not been alleviated, because she has now integrated into the big family of the community and often participates in public welfare activities organized by the community to help the community visit special groups such as the elderly. An old neighbor, who lives in other places all the year round, has full authority to let her help with the empty house. There are many old communities and tenants in Ziyun Community, which is relatively difficult to manage. So she followed the community workers to help solve some neighborhood disputes. "My life has always been very happy!" No, in 20 16, Liu Xiulian was named "a good person in Dong 'an", and her life became brighter and brighter.
Wenhe photo/Chief reporter Zhang Jianhua