Just dragging and dragging, I dragged myself to old age. Older unmarried, less competitive than young girls in the marriage and love market, and then all kinds of marriage and love experts and men seize the fertility problems brought about by age and simply don't get married.
When unmarried women ask them why they don't get married and have children, their answer is nothing more than: because after marriage, the man will definitely ask for children, but having children is a very troublesome thing, which will delay a lot of time and make them unable to concentrate on what they want to do. And this society is demanding more and more women. Having a baby delayed me. Marriage may not guarantee my life. Why take the risk?
Dink still doesn't get married, just to break the traditional concept and try to live a better life. As long as you live a good life and don't regret it, it is understandable how you choose.
But some people think that the concept of unmarried infertility only exists among young people. When their life enters the middle-aged and elderly stage, they will regret it, especially when they are old and have no one to take care of them, and they will understand how important it is to have a family.
Look at the experience of this 60-year-old unmarried single aunt.
If you don't get married, sign up with your old sisters to keep warm and take care of each other.
Aunt Chen is 62 years old this year. She had a short marriage in her twenties and left in less than a year. Since then, Aunt Chen has never thought about getting married. Now he is over 60 and in good health. I have no pain. The biggest thing every day is to take care of the business of your own shop, which is very busy.
After the divorce, Aunt Chen had several boyfriends, but they all left her because she didn't want to remarry. Later, Aunt Chen simply stopped falling in love and became a complete "single dog".
Aunt Chen does not feel lonely at present. She runs a clothing store and studies beauty every day. Because it is a women's dress, I have met many female friends and many old customers. She visits the store from time to time and talks to her even if she doesn't buy clothes. These customers all have families, and there is naturally a little triviality in their lives. I don't have a good life, so I naturally envy Aunt Chen who doesn't have to go through these troubles.
Besides being a clothing store, I am also a place where housewives talk about their lives and gossip. "Aunt Chen said.
However, Aunt Chen is happy. They are sitting here to accumulate popularity and advertise for the shop.
Aunt Chen has two shop assistants, so she also has a rest time. When she doesn't want to come, she stays at home or goes out to play with friends.
"I also have sisters who have never been married in my life. We agreed to take care of each other and warm up. "
"I naturally know what the consequences of being old without family and children are. I once saw an old man lying alone in the hospital when he was ill. I saw it when I was ill in hospital. "
"A 70-year-old woman, accompanied by a nurse, is useless. When it's okay, the nursing staff will play with their mobile phones and doze off. Suddenly, he needed a nurse to work and couldn't wake up for a long time. I used to help her wake up the nurse. I thought my elder sister was as lonely as me, but as a result, she had a child, but the child went to work and had no time to take care of her. I thought it would be all right to hire a care worker. "
"Elder sister is in poor health and it is very difficult to speak. The nurse fell asleep like a dead pig. I don't know whether she came to work to serve patients or to have a holiday. I feel sorry for that sister. In the evening, her son came to see her, and I helped her to change her son's care worker. The next day, her son really gave her a hard-working, dozing off, and still looked at her, just cold and didn't say a word. "
"Of course, people's duty is to take care of patients, not to chat. Besides, it's just an employment relationship. What can we talk about? Fortunately, I was not very ill at that time. Although I am inconvenient to move, I am clear-headed and can order my nurse to work. However, since then, I have seen clearly that this person is old. What's the difference if the children are unfilial? "
"Later, I joined an elderly single sister support group and met the old sisters now. Everyone is not much different in age. If you join this group, you must first ensure that you will take care of each other unconditionally. Actually, we don't take care of each other as nannies, we just take care of each other. We don't need to do it ourselves. We have nannies and carers at work, but we must have someone to look after us to avoid people who are not serious and lazy. It's the same as having a baby. Now that the old man is sick, the children will take care of themselves and throw them to the nanny or nurse. "
Since they all hire people to work, the old sisters can still have a companion together. What can I do if I have a child? If I am busy, I will be perfunctory, and I won't come to see you. Even if there were, I would just sit on my ass and leave. "
"So I think, get married or not, the nature is the same. Who is with you and not with you? If you have a wife who is unwilling to take care of you and accompany you, you will be sad. Our support group is different. We all took an oath. We must abide by this rule in the group. We feel that it is not appropriate to quit the group and there will be no emotional discomfort. "
"In the future, if anyone is gone, make a good will, everyone will help with the funeral, and then donate some money to the group to do membership fees, which is a thank you. The money can also be used for sisters in need. How nice. "
What is the meaning of marriage, for companionship? Have a baby? Be taken care of in my old age? Does anyone know anything about life?
Married is not necessarily happy, not married is not necessarily unhappy. And whether you are married or not, you can fall in love and enjoy love. Whether you live well or not depends mainly on your own mentality.
If you really can't find a suitable marriage partner, or have great resistance to marriage, you must make a more detailed plan for your future life, taking into account unexpected risks such as illness. When people get older, their ability to resist risks will decrease. Even if they have more money, they will be vulnerable and need help from others.
When I was young, I was urged to get married. The reason is nothing more than what I should do when I am old. Without a partner and children, I will die. There are many reports that the elderly living alone died at home for a long time before they were discovered. Think about it. It's gone in my life. Then marriage is the greatest guarantee for a person to send the last journey at the end of his life. After all, not everyone can accept a support group like Aunt Chen.
No matter which choice you make, you should think clearly and make sure that you won't regret it, because you can't come back after the time. If you miss your life, you miss it and you can't start over.